Communication of all kinds is super important in a relationship. Conversations, gestures, actions, and even silence goes a long way and says a lot about the type of relationship you’re in.
Silence can be interpreted in many ways, but when he stops talking to you, your relationship may have become complicated. It’s important to consider circumstances, characteristics, and changes, if any, in your relationship.
Read on for 9 why he stopped talking to you – and what it means for your relationship.
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1. He’s just not the talkative type.
You knew he was a man of few words when you first met him. He would speak occasionally and text even less, and you liked him for that very reason – you found his reserved nature insanely attractive, and it gave him an edge.
Maybe initially he was a little chatty, entertained your texts, and humored you with small talk – but now, a few months in, he has resorted to his old ways.
What this means, is that he was making an extra effort to communicate and make you feel comfortable in the relationship – but he did his job, and now that you’re actually in a relationship he feels just as comfortable – and wants to just be himself.
The fact is, he’s just not the talker type – and is no longer interested in pretending to be someone he’s not. The wooing phase is over, and he just doesn’t want to invest in small talk. He may still be interested in you and the relationship – just doesn’t want to talk as much.
2. He’s dreading commitment.
This might not strike you as a reason to be withdrawn or not talk to you anymore, but he might feel like he’s gotten too deep in the relationship without meaning to – which is scary territory for him. He feels threatened, and like an alarmed tortoise, has retreated into his shell.
He is might be extremely threatened by a monogamous and truly committed relationship and needs some serious think-time. He’s dreading the inevitable commitment and dreading the fact that he’s neck-deep in the relationship.
3. He’s dodging a dispute.
Let’s not kid ourselves. He knows you well enough to know when to stop talking – because he’s all too aware of where the “talking” is headed. He knows his phone will be ringing off the hook with screenshots after screenshots of the things he had once texted when he let his guard down for a split second.
He may have let himself be vulnerable enough to open himself up to you, and isn’t able to face you in an argument. He doesn’t talk to you anymore because he wants to avoid looking you in the eyes, and wants to dodge any disputes – or, on the other hand, he might just be waiting for the opportune moment to discuss arguments in peace and harmony.
4. There’s nothing to say.
If he hasn’t been talking to you, consider thinking about what your talks are about. Sometimes he may not be talking any more because he just doesn’t have anything to say to you, or about the things you are talking about.
This should give you a nudge to look at the situation you are in. Is something big happening in your life that your man doesn’t want to be part of or doesn’t see himself getting involved in? Or, are you constantly talking about things that he really knows nothing of?
5. He’s distracted.
Considering the point made above, men can become a little too obsessed with the saying “to each their own”. The same way he feels he doesn’t need to be involved in certain parts of your world, he feels he should not drag you to his.
He may have put himself in a situation that needs all his focus and attention. You may see it as ignoring you, but in reality, he might just be fighting his demons with all his might. He hasn’t learned that his problems need not be his alone and that he won’t be judged by the problems he is in.
If you find he’s got enough on his plate, you might want to come to terms with the fact that he’s not talking to you anymore because he’s distracted, or encourage him to talk about it.
6. He’s distressed.
Along the lines of being distracted, his stress can also distract him from speaking to you. While any damsel in distress is bound to be rescued by her knight in shining armor, things don’t go the same way when knights are the ones needing to be saved.
Filled to the brim with such “masculine” toxicity, he will keep to himself in times of distress, thinking that only damsels should be in distress – never the knight. We all know that this narrative needs to change, but there’s a high chance that he doesn’t talk to you anymore because he’s really under a lot of stress.
Try taking a closer look at his situation and see if he’s avoiding you because he’s your knight in distress. Give him time or save him – the choice is yours.
7. He’s playing hard to get.
It seems like you’ve been interacting well for the past few months, but suddenly he’s zipped it. For all that time, he was the first to text every morning, and the last one you spoke to before calling it a night. He’d send you texts during the day or call you when he saw something that “reminded” him of you. He didn’t overdo it, and you were enjoying his attention and love.
And then it stopped. It’s been more than a week, and he hasn’t sent any texts or called you out of the blue like he used to – and you’ve been staring at your screen, just waiting for it to ring, and nothing!
Have you tried calling or texting him instead of checking your phone every few seconds? Maybe he just wants you to return the favor. Relationships are a two-way street. He might just want you to put in the same amount of effort.
8. He’s moved on to other girls.
There are more than a thousand sites to find a date.
If you’ve considering all the above possibilities, you might have tried to reach out to him without being too intrusive. Maybe you’ve texted him a couple of times in the past month, but he hasn’t responded. because that’s how long it’s been that he has stopped talking to you. It’s been almost a month now, and he hasn’t called or texted you back.
Heartbreak alert: he might have moved on to other dating pools because there are plenty of fish everywhere. But guess what? This applies to you as well, so get don’t hesitate to get back out there!
9. He doesn’t love you anymore
As painful as it may be, sometimes there’s just more love, and your guy may have just “ended” things quietly. When you look back, you’ll find small signs here and there that the relationship had run its course.
You may have had a good relationship, but it looks like it’s come to its fateful end. Nothing lasts forever, including relationships. It’s important to recognize when to call it quits.
Take this moment of silence to mourn the relationship that has ended and start fresh tomorrow. Similarly, Learn to say goodbye to someone you love, and remember that you deserve someone that loves you and treats you well!