Are you wondering if there is a guy who has a secret crush on you? It is perfectly normal for guys to dream about the girl they like.
But what if it’s the same guy you have a crush on? That could be lucky!
In your dream, you walk into a room and there is the guy you like, waiting for someone. He might be waiting for his guy friend or a girlfriend.
Who knows? He looks handsome in his muscle hugger shirt. Your heart skips a beat. “Today, I must make him realize that I’m smitten with him,” you think to yourself.
He notices you at once, then says hello with that dazzling smile of his. You smile back, then one thing leads to the other.
You suddenly find yourself all cozy. You sit next to him and chit-chat like old buddies. He takes you by surprise and leans over, you take the hint. This is the moment that you have been waiting for.
You taste his lips, and they taste like candy. You kiss him passionately; the kiss becomes steamy and leaves both of you breathless.
You stop and wait for him to tell you that he loves you. But he doesn’t. Instead, he gets up, gathers his backpack, and scurries out; leaving you with this big question: Am I that terrible at kissing?
He walks away and leaves you still feeling giddy from being kissed by the man you like. “He will be back, I know he will be back,” you keep comforting yourself.
But another thought crosses your mind. “What if I follow him? I can’t let him get away that easily.”
But just when you are about to catch up with him. You wake up and realize that it was all a dream! Then you ask yourself, “What if he also dreams of me?”
Does this sound familiar? Keep reading to learn why guys also dream of the girl they like.
Why do guys dream about their crush?
Ask any man or woman, and they will confirm this: they once had a crush and had vivid dreams about that crush.
And sometimes, they might have those dreams while they were in another relationship.
Guys rarely make an effort to decode any of those dreams. Hence, they will treat a dream about their crush like any other dream.
What they don’t know is that behind every dream there is a meaning, and that, if you don’t make an effort to decode a dream, you won’t know what it means.
Scholars have been studying the meaning of dreams for years.
One such scholar is Deirdre Barrett, an assistant professor of psychology and a dream scholar of note in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.
She has researched and written tons of papers on the subject of recurring dreams.
In a podcast, Barret said recurring dreams are usually more critical for the person who is having dreams, which means the more a guy thinks about the girl he likes, the likelier he will dream about her.
The meaning behind a dream
There is a meaning behind every dream you have, and a dream of your crush is no exception. If the dream about the guy you like is recurring, then it may reflect one of the following:
- Physical desires – your dream may indicate that you have physical desires that need to be fulfilled. For instance, you may dream of cuddling, touching, or kissing your crush. It’s highly possible that in your current relationship, you rarely express love physically.
- Emotional desires – There might be another possibility that you have subtle emotional desires. It could be that you always choose to bottle up emotions or hold back expressing love to the people you love.
- Combination of both – It is also possible that you have physical and emotional desires at the same time. Pay attention to symbolic messages in your dream and find someone who can decode them for you.
5 reasons guys dream of the girl they like
As a guy, he might be dreaming of you or another girl he is crushing on for several reasons. First, it might be because he wants to be with that girl.
But it might be because he has an infatuation with her, which could become unhealthy for him if he doesn’t address those feelings.
Some reasons he keeps on dreaming about the girl include:
1. The girl is not available
Dreaming about a girl he likes happens for many reasons. It could be simply because that girl is not in his league, and his subconscious mind is sending him a message.
It says, “Buddy, that girl is your senior colleague, your lecturer, your doctor, or someone you can’t date.”
He is having a recurring dream about this girl because he thinks about her all the time.
During the day, he finds himself stalking her Instagram, saving some of her pictures, and secretly wishing his girlfriend was as gorgeous as his crush is.
So, when he falls asleep at night, guess who he’d see? His crush! But, sorry she is not available for him. Why? Well, because he is not her type.
2. His mind is reminding him of his feelings
He may be harboring feelings for his childhood crush. Fifteen years later, he is in a relationship with you, but keeps on dreaming about his childhood crush?
Weird right? Possibly not. This could be because his mind is reminding him of those feelings he once had for his crush.
But when he wakes up, he knows that there are slim chances that he can hook up with her because of how their lives have changed.
3. He desires to be loved more
Another reason he could be dreaming about the girl he likes is that he’s craving love. This usually happens when you are in an unfulfilling relationship.
According to Austrian psychologist Sigmund Freud, we dream about our crushes because we desire to be loved more.
When this happens to you, you should ask yourself these two questions:
- Am I worthy of being loved?
- Am I capable of loving another human being?
4. He is thinking about the girl everyday
It goes without saying that if you think about someone daily, they will appear in your dreams. Even after many years of knowing this girl, he still considers her the center of his universe.
She is the type of woman he wishes to have for life, although she belongs to someone else right now. And by the looks of things, she seems to be happy with her current boyfriend.
In a dream, at least he can feel how it would be like to be with her. But in reality, he can’t be with her.
5. He is considering cheating
One of the reasons he is dreaming of his crush more often could be because he is contemplating cheating on you.
So it means if the girl he likes gives him a green light, he will take the chance without any hesitation. He may even ditch you for her; yeah that’s how in love this man is.
How you should react to a dream about a person you like
Dreaming of a girl or guy you are crushing on isn’t random. It comes to the surface as a result of a fragment of your imagination.
I am sorry to burst your bubble, but all those recurring dreams are not a message from God that you and your crush should go on a date.
They are not even a sign that you and your crush belong together. So if you are currently in a relationship, work on improving that relationship and forget about your crush.
Dreams of your crush could be nothing but a fascination with the wrong person. Someone who won’t even notice you when you walk by.
But sometimes, they could be of someone who reciprocates your feelings. For instance, if you are single and looking for a new guy.
So instead of doubting yourself, walk to someone you like and ask that person out. If your crush says no, you have got nothing to lose.
If the answer is yes, then we can say your dream has finally come true.