Voice messages are an amazing way of sharing your feelings with your friends, family, and even romantic partners.
Voice messages are a somewhat “old-school” way of sharing feelings, capturing a moment, and letting someone you know you care about them.
For men, voice messages are a way to let them know they are cared for. Voice messages allow them to know that someone is thinking about them.
They are much more personal than a text and capture more emotion.
As such, they’re a great way for established or dating couples to reinforce their love for each other.
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What is a voice message?
It seems like a silly question to ask, but some people in the younger generation might not know what a voice message is.
To put it simply, a voice message is a message that is left on someone’s phone after calling them.
The phone will continue to ring, and after the phone ends it will then give the option to leave a voice message.
A voice message might also be known as a voice mail.
Although you might receive a voicemail from a doctor’s office, job interview, or another professional, voice messages are also a great way to leave a personal memo for your loved one.
The psychology of phone communications
Over 5 billion people in the world currently engage in text messaging. Text messaging is a great way to send quick messages between people.
You can even text someone without needing to respond right away or await their response.
However, although text messages are very convenient, they can lead to lots of confusion.
Text messages are seen by psychology experts as being detrimental to relationships!
This is because texts are very impersonal and encourage laziness and lack of communication between partners.
Texting can be detrimental to relationships including:
- Friends
- Family
- Co-workers
- Dates
- Intimate partners
The disadvantages of texting
There are a variety of disadvantages to texting. Texting makes it easier to dismiss your partner’s feelings through simple messages.
These can quickly lead you to neglect your partner and can create feelings of loneliness and resentment.
If you text your partner frequently instead of calling them, hearing their voice on the other line might actually make you feel awkward…and who wants that in a relationship?
Unfortunately, many more people are now complaining about phone anxiety.
This can cause them to feel extremely awkward during a conversation, lead to frequent pauses within the conversation, and also cause them to lose the ability to communicate effectively via phone.
One of the causes of this is, of course, frequently texting our partners instead of actually calling them and hearing their voice.
Texting also makes it easy to lie to a partner. Even little white lies can build up and cause distrust in your relationship.
Texting should never be used as a way to hide an affair, although this ends up being the case for many men (and women).
Finally, texting makes it difficult to truly share your feelings with your partner. This is especially true if you’re in the “dating phase” of a relationship.
A quick Google search of “texting during dating” yields loads of articles, blogs, and relationship advice from experts about how to navigate the “texting phase.”
We don’t know about you, but texting just doesn’t seem fun when you constantly have to decipher what your partner or date is telling you.
This is also the case when people send passive-aggressive texts. Texts such as these are all too common during the dating phase:
- K
- Sure
- Yea
- Ok
- Wtv
- Wow
- Lol
- Ugh
Even if you’ve spent years in a relationship with your partner, these texts can still persist and make your relationship that much more difficult!
Why you should dump texting
Contrary to popular belief, men actually enjoy women being upfront with them about their intentions. Imagine being a man trying to date a woman.
Mixed signals can be a huge turn-off and can even be a red flag that can indicate some serious manipulative behavior.
Although there is a healthy amount of mystery surrounding a woman, when mystery turns into mixed signals, this can lead to complications in dating.
In fact, studies show that mixed signals actually lead to difficulty in mate selection – even in frogs!
If this is true with simple amphibians, imagine how difficult it will be for a man to determine whether or not you’re a good fit and able to be his girlfriend if you’re sending him mixed signals.
Do yourself a favor and be as upfront as possible. The best way to be upfront is to simply be honest about your feelings.
And one of the best ways to show your feelings? Leave a voice message!
Why leaving a voice message is a great idea
As a woman, imagine a time when a man left you a voice message. How did you feel immediately after you hung up the phone? Was their voice in your mind?
Did you save the message and end up listening to it later on? Did it make you feel cared for?
These are all feelings that a voice message can lead to, and they are an important way of expressing your love and devotion for your man.
Believe it or not, some men actually like it when women show a bit of effort in their relationship (who would’ve thought?)
Not only does a voice message show effort on your behalf, but it also shows that you’re thinking about your partner enough to leave them a personalized and sweet message.
This can help seal the deal if you ever find yourself in a rocky relationship.
If you need to apologize to your sweetheart after a fight, one of the best ways to do so is in person…or through a voice message.
When men don’t want you leaving a voice message
It’s important to know that there is a right and wrong way to leave a voice message for your loved one.
For starters, if your partner has already informed you that they do not want you to contact them, do not under any circumstances leave a voice message.
Not only is this creepy, but it isn’t respecting their boundaries. Not respecting your partner’s boundaries can lead to difficulties down the road.
Also, don’t send angry voice messages. Angry voice messages can also be seen as hostile, rude, and can hurt your relationship.
During the heat of the moment, you might find yourself yelling obscene things at your partner or even threatening to harm them.
You should never leave a message like this on your partner’s phone.
For starters, you might end up regretting all the things you’re saying to your partner, leading you to feel terrible about yourself later on.
These hostile threats can also be listened to constantly by your partner.
If you don’t leave a voice message, your partner might even forget about the anger you expressed (in time).
However, a voice message is permanent, and it can be listened to time and time again! As such, never leave an angry voice message for your partner.
In addition, if your partner does not want you to call them while they are at work, it’s best to wait until they aren’t busy to call and leave a voicemail.
Similarly, if your partner will be at a funeral or another event and won’t be able to accept calls, don’t call to leave a voice message.
When you should leave a voice message for your man
However, if you know your partner is open to you leaving a message and you know he wouldn’t mind it, then you have the green light to leave them a memorable voice message!
When should you do this? While he is on a business trip or on a plane, these are some of the best times to leave a voice message! To do so:
- Do identify yourself. Something simple like, “Hey baby,” or “Hey sweetie, it’s Jessica,” can suffice.
- Do share why you’re calling. “I was just thinking about you and hope you’re safe,” or “I couldn’t get you out of my mind and what we were doing last night.”
- DON’T be overtly sexual (in case someone else is listening in…also you never want to overstep your partner’s comfort level).
- Do ask for a callback – or don’t! It’s all up to you.
- If you want to be silly or even add some extra romance, put some music on in the background. That favorite R&B or bump n grind hit, perhaps?
- Do use a soft voice and refrain from leaving voice messages that are hostile in nature.
Final Thoughts
Men want to feel loved and cared for just as much as women do.
In order to make sure your man feels special, solidify your spot in your date’s heart, or simply improve the romance in your relationship, a voice message is a perfect tool to do so.
It’s also important to remember the right circumstances for leaving a voicemail.
Never leave a hostile voice message and try your best to make your message as personal and romantic as possible. Your man will adore you for it.
