Relationships can be pretty complicated and trying to figure out what a person of the opposite sex is thinking can be impossible.
While you might think a guy feels a certain way about something, he may actually feel the complete opposite, and this can take you completely by surprise.
One thing that you might wonder is if guys miss their crush after they’re in a relationship with someone else.
While a guy might have a fond memory of a former crush, it’s not likely that he will miss her.
He might miss the attention and the fact that a woman was interested in him, but if nothing ever came of that interest, then she will likely be quickly forgotten once he’s in a relationship with someone else.
Crushes can be fun, especially if it’s a secret crush. Having an unknown love interest leaving you love letters and small gifts can be exciting.
Guys feel the exact same way, but if a guy has never had an emotional attachment to a former crush, then he will quickly forget about the crush once he’s in a relationship with another woman.
If you’re dating a guy and you’re not sure if he misses his crush or not, here is how you can know that he has forgotten all about her.
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He’s completely devoted to you
If your new boyfriend is focused on making you happy, and he dotes on you and spends a great deal of time doing things to make you feel special, then you can rest assured that he’s not missing his crush.
Just because someone had a crush on someone doesn’t mean that the feelings were reciprocated by the other person.
If your guy never dated his crush, then there probably weren’t any intense feelings between the two of them in the first place, so there’s nothing for you to worry about.
He answers all your questions about his former crush in a nonchalant manner
Your new boyfriend may think it’s funny that you have questions about his former crush, and if he has no problem answering all your questions, and does so nonchalantly, then you have nothing to worry about.
If he becomes defensive and refuses to answer your questions about his former crush, then there may be a problem.
However, if he never explored a possible relationship with his former crush, there’s not much of a chance that he misses her.
He talks about crushes he had as a teen
Your boyfriend may find crushes that he experienced as a teen more memorable than any he’s had as an adult.
Our teenage years are a time for many firsts, and it isn’t unheard of for your boyfriend to talk about his first kiss, his first crush, and even the first time he had sex.
It doesn’t mean that he misses anyone from his past, but because our teenage years make such an impression on us, it’s not likely that many people will forget that time in their lives – your boyfriend included. And that’s ok.
He asks you about your former crushes
It’s not uncommon for a guy you’re dating to ask you about former crushes in your life.
In this case, a crush is someone who liked you but you either weren’t interested or something else caused you two to never date.
Swapping crush stories can be an interesting way to get to know each other. If he asks you about yours, then obviously he’s not missing his and he simply sees discussing former crushes as a great way to get to know each other.
So, if you’re worried about him missing his former crushes, you should answer his questions about your crushes and, after seeing his calm reaction, you should realize that you’re worrying needlessly about a person that he never had any real feelings for.
He tells you everything about ex-girlfriends and former crushes, if you ask
If you ask your boyfriend about his former crushes, he will likely tell you that he didn’t have the same feelings for her, which is why they never dated.
This should give you peace of mind so you will no longer wonder about him missing her.
However, if you ask him about ex-girlfriends, he will likely tell you about them, as well, and also what caused the relationships to end.
If this makes you feel uncomfortable, then you can tell him, but you shouldn’t ask him questions if you don’t want to hear an honest answer.
Even if your boyfriend was very much in love with an ex, it doesn’t mean he’s not totally into you, nor does it mean that he misses any of them.
He never talks about her and acts as if he doesn’t know who she is
If your boyfriend never talks about a former crush and acts as if he doesn’t remember her well, then you shouldn’t make a big deal of it.
Perhaps he doesn’t remember her name or other things about her because he never had an interest in her.
Just because she had a crush on him doesn’t mean he felt the same about her, so you should not hound him if he never talks about her.
Take that as a sign that he doesn’t miss her and that he’s totally into you now. There is no need to worry about someone who used to have a crush on your boyfriend.
Before you allow yourself to wonder if your boyfriend is missing his former crush, you need to think about yours.
Did you feel the same way about all your former crushes? Do you sit around and reminisce about them and think about how much you miss them?
Probably not. In fact, there were probably some crushes that you were not only not attracted to, but some that actually grossed you out.
Your boyfriend probably feels the same about some of his former crushes.
While a person may miss the attention they received from a former crush, not many people can honestly say that they miss their crushes.
Missing an ex and missing a crush are two totally different things, but unless your boyfriend gave you a reason to believe that he misses anyone from his past, you shouldn’t obsess and worry about these non-issues.
However, if you discover that your ex has been communicating with a former crush or girlfriend, then that is a different story, especially if the ex has stated that she still cares for him and/or he has been suddenly distant with you.
This, however, is a completely different situation – so relax.
There is no reason for you to worry about your boyfriend missing a former crush, as it’s highly unlikely that he does.
In fact, you should be more worried about him missing his ex-girlfriends, but that being said, it’s not healthy to sit around worrying about your boyfriend’s former crushes or ex-girlfriends.
Instead of worrying about who he might miss from his past, why don’t you focus on enjoying his company and making him happy?
Worrying about his former crushes shows that you may have some issues with insecurity, and you may not be quite ready for a relationship.
However, if you’re able to ramp things down a bit and stop worrying about his former crushes and girlfriends, then you can simply enjoy spending time with this dream guy of yours.
