Dating or seeing someone new can be a thrilling and exciting time, especially if you are really into the guy.
If you have made it past the point of your first kiss and you are onto the stage of making you, you might be wondering why guys tend to breathe heavily while they are making out or “getting hot and heavy.”
Most often, guys breathe heavily when making out due to feeling aroused or extremely excited about being with you.
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Is it normal to breathe heavier while making out?
Yes, it is normal to breathe much heavier while making out with someone, especially if you are very attracted to them or excited about being with them in an intimate way.
Breathing heavier is typically a sign of exertion, but it can also be a response to an increased heart rate triggered by both excitement and arousal.
What does it mean when someone is breathing heavily while making out?
If someone begins to breathe heavily while you are kissing them or making out with them, they are likely feeling aroused or excited.
Heavy breathing can signal that someone is physically responsive to your behaviors and moves, especially when it comes to kissing one another and getting physically intimate.
Is it bad when a guy is breathing heavily while making out?
No, not always, especially if you are also as interested in making out with him.
A guy who is breathing heavily while making out is likely trying to signal just how into you he is, even if he is not doing so consciously.
A guy who breathes harder while making out is likely subconsciously attempting to express himself if he does not feel comfortable doing so in any other way, such as letting you know with his words.
Why will a guy breathe heavily while making out instead of moaning or giving me verbal clues?
For some guys, using heavy breathing is the same as communicating verbally with a partner, especially when it comes to making out and getting physical with someone else.
In some instances, a guy may begin breathing heavily instead of telling you verbally how he is feeling due to:
- Excitement: In most cases, guys are simply excited when making out with a partner, which can cause them to begin breathing heavily as they lose control of how fast their heart is beating.
- Anxiety: If a guy is nervous about making out with you because he is attracted to you, he may begin to breathe heavier as an anxiety-based response.
- Arousal: In many instances, a guy may also begin breathing harder to indicate that he is aroused and interested in getting even closer and more intimate with his partner.
It is not always easy to tell what a guy means when he is breathing heavily while making out, so it is important to consider the context of the situation you are in.
It is also important to keep in mind that every guy’s personality is unique, so no one man will likely respond exactly the same way as another in any relationship.
Ways to respond to a guy who is breathing heavily while making out
If you are making out with a guy and he begins to breathe heavily, you may be confused, or you might be turned on yourself.
Knowing how to effectively respond to a guy who is breathing heavily while making out will help you both to become much more comfortable with one another in intimate situations.
When you are making out with a guy who is breathing heavily, you can respond by:
- Kissing him back harder and making out with him more intensely if you are also equally as passionate about him. This response will also help your guy to feel more at ease and much more comfortable with you if you are making out for the first time.
- Acknowledging his excitement and heavy breathing verbally – which may help him to feel more comfortable and accepted if you do so in a positive and responsive way.
- Asking him if he wants to put on music in the background if the breathing is disruptive or interrupting the mood for you.
How can I redirect my guy so he stops breathing so heavily?
At times, a guy breathing heavily during a hot and heavy make-out session can be a turn-on and extremely attractive.
At other times, it can be off-putting and disruptive, causing you to lose the desire to get physical and close with your partner.
If you notice that your guy is beginning to breathe heavily while you are making out, you can attempt to help redirect him with the following tips:
- Grabbing him close to you and redirecting him to another area of your body – if you are comfortable with getting a bit more intimate with your partner.
- Kissing him more intensely with the hopes that he will not focus as much on breathing and other preoccupations and instead focus on what is directly in front of him.
- Asking him to relocate to another room or another area, depending on where you are together. This can help him to calm down and to slow his breathing in the process as long as you are not rushing to the location together.
What if I do not feel comfortable with someone breathing heavily while we are making out?
While some couples may revel in breathing heavily while making out and displaying their affection for one another, even in public, others may not feel so comfortable with loud noises while kissing and becoming intimate.
If you do not feel comfortable with someone breathing heavily while you are making out, you can first attempt to redirect them or attempt to distract them from breathing so loudly.
However, some people are more likely to moan, breathe heavier, and even respond verbally while kissing or displaying affection.
It is not always possible for someone to stop responding as they do subconsciously while they are kissing someone they are attracted to or dating.
If you are not comfortable with someone who breathes heavily while making out and they are unable to calm down or stop the heavy breathing altogether, it may be best to find a more compatible partner.
What does it mean if I am also breathing heavily while making out with someone?
If you begin to breathe heavily while making out with someone, it is likely an indication that you are also attracted to your partner.
You may also be feeling excited or anxious as opposed to arousal when you are making out with someone and breathing heavily, depending on the relationship you have with your kissing partner.
Do you have to breathe heavily while making out with someone?
No. Not everyone will breathe heavily or heavier than usual when kissing or making out with someone.
Those who are easily excited, extremely verbal, or physically responsive are the most likely to begin breathing heavily and becoming over-excited while making out.
In fact, those who are easily excited may always breathe heavily while making out, even after being with someone for years or decades.
Is it a dealbreaker when guys breathe heavily while making out?
Not always. In some instances, it may be a turn-on for a girl whose partner is breathing heavily while they are kissing and making out.
This is especially true if she is equally as physically and sexually attracted to the guy she is making out with and kissing.
For some, however, loud breathing can feel overwhelming and/or disruptive, which may cause them to distance themselves from individuals who are too verbal or those who breathe too loudly and heavily while making out.
If you are not interested in PDA and you prefer a quiet partner, it may be best to find a guy who is also a quiet kisser or who prefers to make out without getting too intense.
What if I find heavy breathing annoying or obnoxious while making out?
Breathing heavily while making out can be attractive, sensuous, and steamy for some, and downright annoying and obnoxious for others.
If you are with a partner who is simply comfortable with being vocal while making out and you are not, you may not be compatible in the long term.
Talking with your partner is one option, though it is not always possible to have someone change how they prefer to physically and emotionally respond to a sexually charged situation.
The best course of action is always open and honest communication.
However, seeking new partners may ultimately be necessary if kissing and making out is a top priority for both partners already involved in a relationship.
Will the heavy breathing go away over time?
In some cases, guys may not breathe as heavily while making out with a partner over time, especially if they have been with a partner for years or even decades.
In some instances, a guy may simply stop making noises while making out or breathing heavily due to aging and maturing.
It is not always an indicator that a guy is no longer interested in you if he no longer breathes heavily while you are making out.
What if after dating for a while, the guy stops heavily breathing during make-out sessions?
If a guy stops breathing heavily while making out after you have been dating for a while, the chances are great that he has simply matured and has changed his ways when it comes to showing affection.
In some cases, your guy may feel distant from you or he may no longer feel as if he can get intimate with you, depending on your relationship and what you may be going through at the time.
If you want to know why your guy has stopped breathing heavily while making you, simply ask him without being confrontational and without a negative connotation attached.
The more open and responsive you are to him, the more likely he will feel comfortable telling you how he feels.
Do younger or older guys breathe heavily when making out?
This is subjective and will vary depending on the guy you are seeing.
Not all men are the same. However, young men may be more apt to breathe heavier while making out if they are anxious, excited, or new to the prospect of being intimate with a partner altogether.
Men who also love public displays of affection and have an easily excited personality are also much more likely to breathe heavier while making out.
There is no simple way to determine if a man will breathe hard while making out simply by judging his age.
