If you aren’t familiar with Islamic beliefs, then you may be pretty shocked to find out the many things that are prohibited in their communities.
Some Islamic communities are stricter than others and will impose harsher consequences for failing to live by Muslim law.
One thing that many people wonder about in Islamic communities is if it’s haram to kiss before marriage.
The word “haram” means prohibited in Islamic societies, and although many Muslim men and women date and engage in kissing and other intimate behavior, it is haram to kiss before marriage.
There are many other rules in Islamic societies that other societies believe are outrageous, but to Muslim believers, they’re normal.
Here is a complete overview of love, dating, and Islamic customs, so you can better understand their beliefs.
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Why is a simple kiss before marriage prohibited in Islam?
Something as simple as a kiss or a hug before marriage is strictly prohibited in Islamic communities because Muslims have very strong views against pre-marital sex.
It is believed that kissing and hugging prior to marriage has the strong potential to lead to pre-marital sex.
In fact, the mere thought of sex that could be triggered by engaging in a simple kiss is prohibited in Muslim communities.
How does Islam feel about same-sex relationships?
Same-same relationships are strictly prohibited and treated as a sinful and unacceptable act.
In fact, they feel that homosexuality is evil and that any person involved in such a relationship is or will be cursed.
Those who are known to be homosexuals in Islamic communities are often shamed to such a degree that they end up relocating.
If homosexuals refuse to leave on their own, they will often be evicted and forced to live elsewhere instead of remaining in a strict Islamic community while clearly defying Allah, their god.
Do Islamic people ever choose to leave their communities due to the strict rules?
Sure, Islamic people can choose to live wherever they want, as they aren’t forced to remain in very religious and strict societies.
Most people who live in strict Islamic communities are strong believers in the rules, even if they struggle to follow the rules all the time.
Islamic people choose to move to less religious communities all the time in order to date and live life without strict rules.
Do Islamic people date Americans when they visit or live in the U.S.?
Even though dating outside their religion and race is frowned upon, if not prohibited in many communities, Islamic people date Americans all the time.
It’s hard to avoid becoming attracted to another person sometimes, and many Muslims find people from the United States as well as other countries very interesting, exciting, and appealing.
Although Muslims don’t often marry outside their faith and race, it does happen more than people believe.
Alcohol: Why it’s prohibited in Islam
Just like it’s prohibited to kiss before marriage in Islam, it’s also haram to consume alcohol, even in small amounts.
Islamic beliefs explain that it’s prohibited to drink alcohol because any substance with the potential to negatively affect a person’s decision-making, judgment, and ability to function is not allowed.
Muslims are taught that they need to remain drug and alcohol-free so they can make the absolute best and most clear-headed decisions at all times.
What is an Islamic date like?
Although many people from other religions are astounded, dating before marriage is not accepted in Islam.
Islamic beliefs feel that dating after marriage is sweeter and more special, as there are no temptations to worry about, since married couples are free to engage in sex, intimacy, and romance as often as they desire, with a few restrictions.
The few dates that are allowed in Islamic communities involved several chaperones accompanying the couple, which helps to prevent “inappropriate” behavior from occurring.
Do people from other backgrounds ever move to Islamic communities?
People from different religious backgrounds or races are not allowed to live in strict Islamic communities.
In fact, most people from other religious backgrounds would find it undesirable to live in a Muslim community, since their beliefs would clash with those beliefs of the Muslims.
Even if a Muslim opts to marry a non-Muslim, they would not be allowed to live in a strict Islamic community, since dating outside their religion is a sin.
How do couples get to know each other before marriage if dating is not allowed?
The only way a couple can get to know each other before marriage if they’re unable to date beforehand is through the exchange of letters and similar types of correspondence.
It is sometimes permissible for couples to date while being accompanied by their family members, but this is not always practical.
Oftentimes, a couple doesn’t get to know each other until after they’re married, which the Muslim feel is a more effective and acceptable way to get to know each other and fall in love.
Rules regarding Islamic attire
Among the many rules of Islam, Muslims must wear specific attire – so as not to be disrespectful to Allah – and this is especially true when attending religious services.
In fact, women must not allow any part of their bodies to be visible, and in many Islamic communities, the woman must cover her head and even her face when in public areas.
When Islamic community members enter a mosque, they must also remove their shoes as a show of respect to those in prayer as well as to Allah.
How did strict Islamic rules come about?
The Islamic law came about during ancient times and has continued to be practiced, encouraged, and adhered to today.
While many of the rules are interpreted differently these days, the basis of the rules remains the same.
Also, not every Islamic community is run exactly the same, and some communities are extremely strict, while others are laxer.
How is sex viewed in Islamic communities?
Sex is viewed as a sacred union between husband and wife, and in some communities, men are allowed to have multiple wives as long as they can easily care for them all financially.
Anal and oral sex is strictly prohibited, even between husband and wife, as it is deemed evil.
Couples are encouraged to have sex in order to procreate, and men must pray prior to engaging in intercourse as a way to bless the child that could be conceived from the act.
Are Islamic people that move away ever allowed to visit their families?
Islamic people who decide to move away from their communities because they don’t want to follow the rules are often forbidden from returning, even if it means they can never visit their families again.
Many will send their family members money and gifts, and they will sometimes even bring their family members to visit them if money permits.
In some cases, families will disown adult children who have moved away and decided to avoid their religious obligations, so visiting obviously does not occur in these cases.
Is there a limit as to how many children Muslim couples can have?
Muslim couples are encouraged to have as many children as they’re blessed with by Allah, or as many children as they desire to have.
Some couples have only 1 or 2, while other couples have significantly more, as every Muslim couple is different, just as couples are in other countries.
However, there are some couples who aren’t able to have children at all, due to problems with infertility, and this could pose a major issue.
How is infertility handled in Muslim communities?
It is expected that all couples are able to become pregnant easily and birth as many children as they desire, but unfortunately, this doesn’t always occur.
When a couple is unable to conceive, they are questioned and looked at as if they’re doing something wrong.
Infertility is stressful enough without the interference and opinions of other people, and the fact that religion keeps them from seeking out the most advanced fertility treatments, some Muslim couples never conceive a child.
Islamic laws are very different than the rules of many other societies throughout the world.
While it might seem utterly ridiculous for it to be haram to kiss before marriage, it is a belief that Muslims follow religiously in many cases.
Just because Muslim laws may be different from what you’re used to doesn’t mean that Islamic laws are weird or strange, as it’s simply what they believe.