Kissing someone is perhaps one of the most thrilling experiences ever. Kisses can be a sign of affection, a sign of flattery, or a sign of true love.
Depending on the circumstances, girls feel amazing after they kiss someone or are kissed by someone else.
When a girl kisses someone, she will feel overwhelmed with various sensations stemming from adrenaline rushes, nervousness, sexual attraction, and flattery.
Conversely, if a girl isn’t a fan of your kiss, it could mean there are underlying issues going on that should be addressed if you plan to stay together.
Do all cultures share kisses?
Kissing seems almost second nature for people. We see it done all the time in movies, TV shows, read about it, and overall know that kisses signify love.
From your grandmother kissing you on the forehead, to your mom embarrassing you with a kiss on the cheek in front of your friends, kissing seems to be the standard for showing affection.
However, not all cultures show affection by kissing. In fact, a study found that only 46% of all cultures around the world use lip-to-lip kissing as a sign of affection!
Moreover, the study also found that the more complex a society is, the more kissing is shown as a sign of affection and used regularly between romantic partners.
Other forms of affection
How else would men express their love for women and vice versa? There are a variety of other ways to show affection to a girl besides kissing them.
For instance, the Maori people of New Zealand rub noses with each other in order to show affection.
This was observed by Charles Darwin and is described in his book The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals.
In Thailand, kissing is actually thought of as a foul act, and it is not a widely accepted form of showing affection.
Instead, people in Thailand and in other cultures sniff each other’s cheeks to show their loved one interest.
The origins of kissing
It is thought that the first records of kissing are described in the Vedic Sanskrit scriptures of around 1500 B.C.
This was, of course, a long time ago, which begs the question, why don’t all cultures show affection through kissing?
Although kissing originated in India, it has now become a part of western culture, so much so that someone’s “first kiss” is thought to be a milestone in their life.
Many Hollywood and indie movies include kissing a boy as part of the coming-of-age arc for a girl.
In Mad Men, Betty Draper tells her daughter Sally, “You don’t kiss boys, boys kiss you!”
Kissing in media
Kissing has actually had quite an evolution, beginning with the advent of movies and photography in the early 20th century.
The advent of photography and silent movies brought about an expectation for women (and men) to kiss and look beautiful while doing so.
It’s the best movie trope out there – kiss the girl, win her affection, and look good while doing so.
For men, the “kiss” has become synonymous with overpowering and wooing a female.
As a girl, there is a lot of pressure added for women to look good while kissing, kiss like an expert, be comfortable, but not too comfortable, and of course, let a man overtake you during the kiss.
That’s a lot of expectations! Fortunately, kissing has evolved in the media, and now it is understood that kissing is no easy feat…and it is an awkward experience the first couple of times.
Feelings during a kiss
Nevertheless, media portrayals of kissing haven’t stopped girls and guys from feeling flutters during their first kiss.
Although you can easily kiss your spouse without feeling awkward or clumsy, the feelings a girl has during a first kiss are always mixed with excitement and passion.
That’s because kissing produces massive amounts of oxytocin in the brain. This is a “feel-good” chemical that brings about pleasure, joy, and euphoria.
It’s also a chemical that encourages us to want to have “more” of what is releasing the chemical. Hence, kissing isn’t just a peck when it’s the first one.
A girl’s first kiss might lead to a full make-out session…or even a sexual encounter, and that’s perfectly normal!
It’s the brain’s way of getting more oxycontin and feeling more pleasure from the kiss.
Lips are also full of nerve endings, and the sensation of having your crush so close to you can make a girl feel as if she’s on top of the world.
What if it doesn’t feel special?
We know now that media has placed a big importance on kissing and has ingrained this importance into the American psyche through almost a century of films and romantic movies.
We also know that kissing brings about feelings of joy and pleasure due to chemical releases in the brain, intimacy, the feeling of being close to your partner, and the many nerve endings in someone’s lips.
With all this in mind, you’d expect a girl to be swept off her feet during her first kiss. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case.
Kissing might be an awkward situation and be uncomfortable for a girl if:
- She’s experienced past trauma
- She’s experienced past heartbreak
- It’s her first kiss with anyone
- She’s unsure about her sexuality
- She just isn’t interested in you but is trying to be nice
- She’s tired
- She isn’t expecting a kiss
- Your breath is offensive
- She thinks her breath is offensive
The list goes on and on! Fortunately, there are ways you can improve your girl’s experience when kissing.
Being a pro and making her feel special
Kisses are always a special moment. Whether it’s her first kiss or your first kiss, it’s important to remember that kisses are no small deal.
Even a small peck on the cheek can be of important significance.
Here are some tips you can use to help you seal the deal, make the kiss comfortable, and make it a moment to remember.
Get consent first
Consent is the most important part of making a kiss special. If you sense any sort of hesitance from a girl, you should always ask her permission before kissing her.
Springing a kiss onto a girl suddenly might be romantic…or it might be considered harassment or assault.
As such, it’s important to understand whether or not the girl is truly comfortable with kissing you.
Let her take the lead
Gone are the days when men were expected to sweep women off their feet during a kiss (literally).
Nowadays, women are more empowered than ever to discover their sexuality, initiate dates, and even take the lead during foreplay.
If your girl wants to take the lead with the kiss, let her!
She’ll signal to you she wants to kiss by leaning forward, fluttering her eyes, looking into your eyes, or simply telling you she’s going to kiss you.
If you both consent to the kiss, this moment can be memorable for your woman.
Brush your teeth beforehand
Nothing is a bigger turn-off during a kiss than stinky breath. Make sure your breath is perfect by brushing your teeth or using some mouthwash before a kiss with a girl.
This will make the moment more special and will make it more like a scene from a romance movie than a horror film.
Breath mints are always handy to keep, especially if you two eat dinner as a date. Speaking of which…
Choose a romantic spot
A kiss is special for a girl and can make her love you even more if it’s done in a romantic setting.
Whether that’s at a park, under the moonlight, near the sea, or anywhere else, choose a spot that has meaning for both of you.
When you reflect on the kiss, you’ll remember where and when the setting was.
The more beautiful the setting, the more beautiful the memory will be.
Movie magic and natural hormones have made the kiss one of the best experiences in a girl’s life.
During a kiss, girls feel flooded with affection, hormones, and the desire to keep the moment going!
Although not all cultures find lip-to-lip contact crucial for showing affection, most American girls will agree that their first kiss with their partner was a special moment.
To add to that special moment, choose a romantic setting, ask for consent, and freshen up your breath.