There are two points of view to look at in the answer to this question. One is from the man who is cheating.
The other is from the man who is cheated on. In either case, it can lead to negative consequences for him. What are they? Read this article to the end to find out.
Who is this article written for?
Everybody! It can apply to same-sex couples as well as heterosexual couples. Plus, not only will we discuss men that cheat, but we’ll take a look at women that cheat as well.
No matter who you are, you may benefit from the information contained in this article.
How does a man feel after he cheats?
Over 65% of them feel guilty even if they do not get caught. Many of them will start to display feelings of guilt.
They May buy their spouse gifts or take them out to eat more often. This kind of behavior usually takes place when he has broken off the affair.
Can there be lasting effects on the relationship after cheating?
Yes, and they can occur whether or not the affair has ended. Even if the spouse never finds out, the cheater may still be riddled with guilt and paranoia.
He or she can experience detrimental mental health side effects and possibly physical health dysfunctions too.
What about lasting effects if the partner finds out about the affair?
The person that was cheated on will never trust the cheater again. At least, not in the same way.
Even if for some reason this couple stays together, there will always be suspicion and feelings of doubt.
The cheater will always feel guilty, especially if he loves his partner. He or she may turn to alcohol or drugs to try and alleviate these feelings.
Who else is impacted by infidelity?
The children of the couple! They will forever resent the cheater and the hurt he or she caused to their other parent.
These feelings can come out in the form of rebellious behavior at home and at school.
It may result in a decline in their grades at school due to a sudden inability to focus on their work. The kids will be emotionally distressed for quite some time.
Why do folks cheat at all?
Sometimes it is for personal reasons. They feel neglected by their spouse or inadequate at home.
Perhaps the spouse has become physically or emotionally unattractive to them. Maybe they think their spouse is no longer interested in them.
They could have erectile dysfunction and believe that an extramarital affair will cure it.
Many times the cheating is spontaneous
In a lot of cases, the affair was not deliberately sought out. The two people involved met by chance and discovered a mutual attraction to each other.
Maybe both of them are already married. But their feelings for each other are so strong they begin an affair.
A situation like this can only spell the end of the line for both people’s original spouses.
Can a marriage survive an affair?
Yes, this does happen. If there is true love between them and the cheater realizes his mistress is not really the one for him.
It will take a lot of work though. If the spouse knows about the affair, the marriage will be negatively impacted from here on out.
The trust between them will no longer be the same. That said, if both spouses are willing, the marriage can resume and get better again.
Signs your spouse might be cheating on you
There are signs your spouse is cheating. Allow us to list them:
- Suddenly always away from home
- Dressing up more frequently
- Irritability in his attitude towards you
- A lack of passion for you
- He cannot look you in the eyes
- Improving his overall appearance
- An increase in anxiety or hostility
- Suddenly in a depressed mood all the time
- He or she resents being with you
Should you confront your spouse?
You could, but that may not work. He or she could lie and deny there is an affair going on.
On the other hand, if you truly love your spouse and are willing to fight for him, a confrontation could be in order to spark the discussion.
If you take this approach, you may wish to have some concrete evidence first. You also must take into account that he might respond violently.
Perhaps have someone there to look out for you when you confront him.
Should you have him followed?
This might be the best way to prove the affair is going on. However, you should hire a professional private investigator.
If the follower is discovered by your cheating partner, he could become hostile or even violent.
You don’t want a friend to be involved in such an action. A professional will know how to handle this.
Are men the only ones who cheat?
Definitely not! There are just as many women who cheat without being provoked by their mate.
To her husband, there was no good reason for the cheating. He provides for her and the kids and believes he has always been a loving husband.
The pain experienced by a man who has been cheated on is just as detrimental as the other way around.
Are heterosexual couples the only ones who experience cheating partners?
Again, definitely not! People are people, and sometimes people will cheat on their spouses. It does not matter what gender or sexual orientation they are.
The same reasons for cheating are present as are the same consequences.
There could also be children involved when a person from a same-sex union decides to cheat. Those children will be wrongfully affected.
Is cheating done out of pure intent to harm the spouse?
Believe it or not, the answer is no. As we discussed earlier, a lot of times an affair is spontaneous.
It happens as a result of a chance encounter between two people who are attracted to each other. This can occur even if one or both parties are already married.
Will it still hurt the spouse?
Definitely yes. No matter what the circumstances of the affair are, your spouse will be irreversibly hurt when finding out about it.
Expect bad repercussions and lots of arguing and tears. It will also still hurt the kids.
It could even hurt the kids of the mistress in the affair too. Nothing good will come of an affair.
Are cheaters bad people?
It depends on the circumstances of the affair. If it was due to a chance, random meeting and there was no intent to harm their spouse, this is not a bad person.
However, if the cheater makes a career out of finding people to cheat with and deliberately disrespects his (or her) spouse, this is really not a good person.
If you are the one who has been cheated on, should you end the marriage?
The answer to this question depends on how you feel. If you truly love your spouse, you can opt to forgive them and move forward with your marriage.
But you must understand things might never be the same. There will always be mistrust between you.
He or she will forever feel guilty and could react to these feelings in a negative way.
You are the one who must make this decision. Nobody can or should tell you what to do.