It’s extremely common for a good friendship to develop into a romantic whirlwind. But when two people start as friends, it can be hard to change the dynamic, especially if you’re not sure whether the other person feels the same.
In this article, we discuss how you can tell if a female friend wants a romantic relationship. Just watching her body language and making a note of the words she is using will reveal multiple signs that indicate a change of feelings.
How she talks about future plans
Pay close attention to how she talks about her future plans. What does she want to do in the future, and does it include you? If she talks about you in her future plans, then it’s an obvious sign that she wants to keep you around in her life.
Conversely, don’t worry if she doesn’t mention you in any future plans. There’s a good chance that she’s nervous about how you will feel about it.
Does she ask you deep questions?
Think about what she asks about. If she’s interested in your dreams, family, or future plans, this is a good sign that she wants to see if there is space in your future for herself.
Asking how many kids you want or if you want to get married is a HUGE green flag that she’s into you.
Be honest with your answers. Don’t include her in your answers just because you believe she likes you. However, if you like her back, now is the time to get flirty and give hints that you want to keep her close.
Does she get nervous around you?
It can be hard to know whether she sees you as a friend or something more. If she’s nervous, then you can be pretty sure that she is attracted to you. Just think about yourself – there’s a good chance that you have suddenly started slurring your words around an attractive person.
This also includes nervous laughing and giggling. In fact, you may suddenly think you’re the funniest person in the world, as she will be non-stop giggling every time you talk.
Maybe she wants to tell you about feelings but doesn’t know how. Perhaps she’s conscious of how she looks or behaves as she wants to want a good impression.
Would you be nervous around someone that was just a friend? Nope! Well, unless you had some private information you wanted to share. So be conscious of that.
Has she opened up to you?
It’s a good sign if she sees you as someone she can trust with her thoughts, feelings, or past experiences. Now, she may see you as a friend, but this fact also means you have the potential to build a strong relationship.
Does she frequently touch you?
Now, I’m talking about anything sensual, but even an innocent touch of your arm can be a sign that she’s interested in you. As such, if she touches your hands, arm, hair, or leg, you can be pretty sure she thinks of you as more than a friend.
If you dislike being touched, or she touches you in areas you don’t want her to touch, tell her that you aren’t comfortable and you need her to stop.
Reciprocate her behavior if you like her back. So, if she playfully touches your arm, you may want to mirror her by playfully putting your arm around her or touching the small of her back as you cross the road.
Does she care for you?
If your female friend is helping you more than a friend would, then there’s a good chance she thinks about you as more than a friend too. This can include cooking for you when you’re sick, buying you random gift, or wanting to cook dinner for you on a frequent basis.
If you do fancy her back, make sure you reciprocate her acts of kindness in a similar way. However, it can be awkward if you aren’t interested in her romantically. In such a case, thank her for her kindness, but decline some of her offers.
Does she remember the small details?
While she could just be a fantastic listener, if she wants something romantic, she will likely remember every small detail about you.
You may be surprised at how she remembers your favorite biscuit, colour, or place to eat. But she is likely replaying every moment in her head, so it’s no wonder she remembers!
She will also notice if you’ve had a haircut or bought a new t-shirt, where she will then proceed to compliment you and ask further questions.
Has she introduced you to her family?
Women don’t introduce just anyone to their family. As such, this is a huge sign that the woman is serious about you. If she invites you over for dinner with her parents or to a family event, it is likely that she’s trying to communicate your significance in her life.
It’ll be assumed that you’re her partner, and she knows that. In fact, she wants that…
She talks to you at night / in bed
If she is bombarding your phone with messages before bed, then there’s a good chance she fancies you. This is because we tend to talk to those closest to us when we jump into bed at night.
It can also show that she’s more interested in talking to you than she is in sleeping. She may even be the first person who messages you in the morning. Simply put, she LOVES talking to you and you never get boring.
Read her lips
Is she puckering her lips a lot while talking with you? Maybe she is applying some lip gloss to her lips to keep them full and shiny? If so, she’s either about to go on a hot date, or she is currently on a date… with you.
Lips are erogenous, which means they are a pleasurable and sensual area of the body. As such, accentuating the lips can be a sign that your female friend is trying to add some romance to your friendship. She may even be hinting that she wants you to kiss her.
She becomes protective of you
You may notice signs of jealousy and protection with female friends that see you in a romantic way.
You should be able to tell by her reaction when you’re talking about another girl.
She may even start asking about girls that follow you on social media or other girls you have recently met at work or otherwise.
In extreme cases, you may notice her acting colder to other girls that show you attention. This is a huge sign that she wants you to herself.
She makes a special effort with appearance
Most women want to look good, whether that’s wearing stylish clothes or doing her make-up. But have you noticed her making a special effort when she’s in your company? If so, this is a sign that she’s trying her best to impress you.
This is a tip where you have to take some of your own initiative. Only you will know if she has started wearing more attractive clothes in your presence or whether she is just experimenting with a new style.
She’s always available for you
Does your friend stop what she’s doing just to communicate with you? This shows how much she cares about you and how important you are to her.
Of course, she may just want to spend time with you because you’re such a good friend, but there’s a high chance that she now craves your attention. She may even have become attached to you.
She will likely be making plans for the following weekend, insisting you join her at certain events, or constantly checking to see if you’re available to hang out.
She teases you in a playful, flirtatious way
Friends tease each other all the time, but when the teasing seems more like flirting, you can be sure she is trying to move towards a romantic relationship.
Flirtatious teasing includes giving nicknames, tickling you, and playfully touching you. Read the signs, as she is probably leaving them on purpose.
She stalks and engages with your social networks
If she sees you as more than a friend, then she is likely looking to engage with you at every opportunity.
As such, she will probably be flicking through your socials and commentating on any new picture or status update.
Feel free to enjoy the extra attention if you fancy your female friend. Otherwise, you may want to pull back if it’s becoming too overwhelming or creepy for you.
She hires a friend…
If your female friend is unsure of how to approach the issue, she may use a mutual friend to gather information from you.
This friend may ask if you are open to relationships, how you see your female friend, or even if you would ever go on a date with your female friend.
Some women may be tactful with their questioning, whereas others will straight-up ask you out for their friend. Be careful not to confuse the mutual friend’s questions for them fancying you.
What should you do?
Once you have discovered how she feels, it’s time to decide if you both want to remain friends or enter a romantic relationship. You need to think hard about whether you want to enter a romantic relationship, as it will be almost impossible to go back if you change your mind in the future.
If you do want to ask her out, you may want to take things slow by being honest with your feelings and then asking to go on a few dates to see how things go. You don’t have to enter a relationship from the get-go.
Ask her out if you fancy her
If she meets enough of the above examples, you have a green light to ask her out on a romantic date. Be sure to communicate your intentions and what you want from the new dynamic.
Some of you may want a long-term relationship with this women, whereas others may want a “friends with benefits” situation. The last thing you want to do is mess around one of your best friends.
Try saying something similar to, “We’ve been friends for a while now, but I’m just wondering if you would be interested in exploring being more than just friends. Would you be open to going on a date?”
If she agrees, then get ready to knock her socks off on the best date ever! There’s no need to be too nervous – just act how you usually do with her.
Don’t feel too sad if she just wants to remain friends. Not everyone will want to risk their friendship for a potential relationship. You will still have her in your life if you choose to just be friends.
Be honest if you’re not interested in anything romantic
There’s a chance that you don’t see your female friend in a romantic way or don’t want to potentially damage a great friendship. In such case, the best thing to do is be honest and say that you want to be friends.
If the signs are really obvious, you might want to bring it up in conversation, especially if you don’t enjoy the extra attention. Say something similar to, “I noticed that you’re acting differently with me at the moment, and our friendship has moved to a different dynamic. I just wanted to address that I really love the friendship we currently have and am not interested in moving to anything romantic. I hope understand my thoughts”.
There’s a good chance that your friend will be upset when hearing this news, but as long as you say it correctly, then it will be okay.