Narcissists have the tendency to view their significant others as being “supplies” used to meet their needs and fill the holes within themselves.
Often, their partners will become tired of the covert emotional and psychological abuse and end the relationship.
Or even more commonly, the narcissistic abuser will begin to devalue them and subsequently discard them in favor of a new supply.
If you’ve found yourself in a relationship with a narcissist and have recently broken up with them, you still may suffer from a broken heart. But do they regret losing you?
Narcissists have a limited capacity for emotions like love, empathy, and regret.
If you were the one who ended the relationship, it may have been a blow to their ego, and they may respond by hovering.
On the other hand, if they leave you, and their new relationship doesn’t work out, they may return to you and try to work things out.
But this doesn’t necessarily mean they regret losing you.
It’s hard to tell how a person is truly feeling – especially a narcissist – as they tend to hide behind a facade. But they may feel regret in a certain sense.
Even though narcissists use their partners to meet their own selfish needs, if you were a really good supply, it’s possible for them to regret losing the benefits of the relationship.
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Why doesn’t a narcissist regret losing you?
Sorry to say this sister, but you were just a supply that was used to fill the void inside of a narcissist’s soul.
Narcissists aren’t capable of love – at least not in the way that most people define love. And how can you expect them to regret something that they never truly valued?
Narcissists view their partners as supplies

Many narcissists have successful careers and are attractive and financially stable. But deep down they are extremely insecure.
They look at you as being someone who can make them feel loved, appreciated, and affirmed.
Then again, there are other narcissists who put on a facade of being powerful, successful, and caring. But it’s all a lie used to reel you in.
Once you fall head over heels in love, they’ll suck you dry like a parasite in any way they can, then move on to the next supply.
Narcissists aren’t capable of empathy or love
When a narcissist says that they love you, what they are really saying is that they love the things you do for them or how you make them feel about themselves.
They don’t really love you. This isn’t because you aren’t absolutely awesome, but because they aren’t capable of love.
The wants and needs of a narcissist will always come first, which can cause you to eventually feel as though you don’t even matter.
You may even begin to resent always putting your partner’s needs before your own.
Narcissists can’t empathize with another person’s feelings. Their entire world revolves around themselves, so it does really matter to them whether or not you’re in their life.
Narcissists have a limited capacity for regret

So, it stands to reason that a narcissist may simply be incapable of regretting losing you.
If you left your coffee mug on a city bus, would you regret losing it? Maybe. But most likely you’d shrug it off and buy a new one.
This is the same way that most narcissists view losing their partners.
Now sometimes, a narcissist may view their spouse as being a possession and feel a huge ego blow from the relationship loss.
Or, if that new supply turns out to not be as good as the narcissist thought, they may regret having walked out on you.
But this isn’t because they love you. You were just a better supply than the replacement.
How are narcissists affected by losing you?
The cycle of narcissistic abuse is idealizing, devaluing, and discarding- so if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, the chances are good that you’ll eventually be discarded.
Many sources claim that all narcissists are the same, but even though they all share common characteristics and behaviors, no two people are ever exactly the same.
Occasionally, narcissists may end up in lifelong marriages- but if the relationship does end, you can expect a narcissist to be affected in the following ways:
Their ego will be blown

If you were the one who ended the relationship, their narcissistic ego would have taken a huge hit.
This is one of the reasons why narcissists are usually the first ones to discard their supplies.
Once you begin to see beyond their facade, they fear that you won’t love them for who they truly are.
So, they’ll begin to devalue you and try to make you feel as though you’re the one who is worthless.
They’ll quickly move on to another supply
Parasites need a host in order to survive. The same is true for narcissists. But nobody can ever fill that huge gap in their hearts.
Regardless of who ended the relationship, you can expect the new supply to always be waiting in the wings.
It’s very common for narcissists to cheat, either to have a backup supply or an extra source of love, sex, and admiration.
Narcissists move on to the next supply quickly. And they’ll probably show off how happy they are with their next partner on social media- just to rub it in your face.
They may feel abandoned or hurt

But deep down, they may feel angry, hurt, or abandoned, and they’ll express these emotions in many negative ways that may make your life begin to feel like a living nightmare.
Often, trauma bonds will develop in abusive relationships, so a narcissist may actually feel something for you, especially if they’ve survived childhood abuse and felt like you were one of the few people who understood them.
They may try to reconcile with you
If you’re broken-hearted and hoping to work things out, you may get your wish as narcissists are known to recycle supplies.
Sometimes they may give you empty apologies and promises, and the love-bombing phase that reeled you in the first time will start all over again.
But they have no intention of changing.
Instead, they’re hoping that you’ll do a better job at pleasing them and fulfilling their needs.
How do narcissists respond to losing you?
When you end a relationship with a narcissist, your best defenses are to either have no contact or use a technique known as the gray rock method.
Narcissistic abuse doesn’t always end when the relationship is over.
Ghosting and hovering

Sometimes the narcissist is the one to leave, and they don’t always have the decency to say goodbye.
This may leave you desperate for closure that you’ll probably never receive.
Other times, the narcissist will hover by continuing to stay in touch with your friends and family, following you on social media, and calling “just to check on you.”
They may continue to try to control and influence your life long after the relationship has ended.
Or they may just want to keep you around if it doesn’t work out with the new supply.
Smear campaigns
Once a narcissist is no longer able to destroy you, they’ll attempt to destroy how others see you.
They may come in between your life-long friendships, try to turn your children against you, or make false allegations.
If you’re the victim of a smear campaign, you should document all communications, block the narcissist on social media, and try to get a restraining order if necessary.
Threats of violence

Narcissistic abuse is usually verbal, emotional, psychological, and economical in nature, but narcissists can also be prone to physical violence.
Abuse is still abuse, regardless of its nature.
If your narcissistic ex threatens to physically harm you, you need to reach out to local law enforcement and a domestic violence shelter.
You can also file for an order of protection at your county courthouse.
The most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves. You should always take actual violence or threats of violence very seriously.
Instead of focusing on whether a narcissist regrets losing you, you should focus on healing, moving on, and staying safe in the process.