Every woman out there has asked herself this question at some point her life: how do I make a man chase me? How do I make him crave my attention? How do I keep him interested in me for longer? How can I make myself more attractive to him?
It’s in a man’s nature to chase women. It’s one thing for a man to like you, but another when he can’t stop thinking about you – and spends all his time thinking of ways to impress you and win you over.
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Why Get Him to Chase You?
Letting a man chase you is the lost art of courtship. Most women have forgotten what it’s like to just sit back, relax, and let a man put some effort into winning their heart. No matter how much you like a guy, the easier you make it for him the less interested he’ll be.
Have you ever wondered why so many guys are hooked on video games? It’s the idea that at the end of it all, there’s something to achieve that makes it worth playing.
Making him chase you is built on the same principle: there’s something to be won along the way, but the big treasure comes after putting in the time and effort. That’s what makes it really interesting for them, and that’s what keeps men hooked!
Here are the top 13 ways to make a man chase you in a powerful, yet subtle way:
1. Let him know that you’re busy.
It doesn’t matter if all you’re doing is laying on your couch watching Netflix all day long. Let him know (or “think”) that you’re busy by taking a bit of time to reply to his texts.
Make him wait for you and wonder what you’re doing that is keeping you so busy. You aren’t always available for him, you’ve got your own life, plans, and friends, and you aren’t sitting by your phone waiting for him to text you – or, at least, he doesn’t need to know that you are.
2. Show him your confidence.
If you want to make a man chase you, you need to exude confidence. Be that confident person who always gets noticed when they walk into a room. Regardless of gender or sexual preference, confidence is always attractive.
Show the world that you’re confident in your skin, and show him that you aren’t waiting for a guy to notice you because you get noticed anyway. It’ll make him want you so much more. He’ll want to prove to himself that he can win you over, and he’ll want to prove to you that he’s worthy of your attention.
3. Let him think he’s in charge.
You know full well that you’re the one in charge, but a man needs to believe that it’s the other way around. It’s the oldest trick in the playbook. Make him believe that he’s the boss and making the decisions.
4. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
One of the sure-fire ways to make a man chase you is by making him aware that other men are chasing you too. Whether you casually mention another guy in conversation or make him see you in the company of other men, it’ll get his blood boiling – in a good way!
Men are competitive by nature. They want to chase, and they want to know they’ve won and beaten every other guy. He’ll feel so good when you ultimately choose him! (Another benefit: if he’s not actually up for the chase, why put all your eggs in one basket?)
5. Keep some mystery.
We’ve all got our quirks, gross habits, and guilty pleasures – but keep yours at least mostly to yourself until much later on in the relationship. If you overshare, he’ll feel like he’s caught you already, and might lose some interest.
He doesn’t need to hear your entire life story on the first date or find out the names of all your ex-boyfriends. Some stuff is best kept to yourself, especially in the beginning. Men are usually quite good at that – they remain a mystery for a while – so a take a leaf out of his book.
6. Flirt with him.
There’s no harm in giving him some reward along the way. Flirt with him, and have fun in his company. It’s important to show him you’re interested in him in order for him to have the motivation to chase you.
7. Don’t put him on a pedestal.
The worst thing you can do when trying to keep his attention on you is to swoon over him. Don’t make it so easy for him that early on, and don’t treat him like he’s “all that”.
Treat him like a normal person – someone you might consider dating, or not; you haven’t made up your mind yet! He hasn’t put in enough effort for you to have decided if he’s the one for you.
Men absolutely hate clingy and needy women who barely know a guy and are already planning their wedding and baby names. Don’t be that woman!
8. Tone down the drama.
Men don’t like drama, and usually avoid it like the plague. Sure, he’ll tolerate some in a serious relationship – but go easy on the drama before he knows you well.
Save it for your texts with your girlfriends, and let him see the best version of you – a cool, confident, sensible woman, who’s got no time for drama or negativity.
9. Embrace your sexy side.
Men are visual beings, and it’ll literally drive him crazy if he sees you in a really flattering outfit or red lipstick. Don’t change your style for him, rather put in a bit more effort to show him the “prize” at the end of the chase.
A high-quality woman always knows how to use her feminine energy to keep a guy interested, and to show him that she’s got her eyes on him.
10. Don’t change your life for him.
Don’t focus solely on him and lose yourself in the process. It’s a sure-fire way to make a man respect you less. No guy is worth changing your life for him, especially early on in the relationship.
Stick to your plans, hobbies, career goals, and friends. Don’t drop something that’s important to you just to make him like you more. It might seem he’s happy you did, but what it says to him is that you’d do anything he asks – which is the opposite of what the chase is about.
You aren’t expecting him to bend over backward for you or to abandon his friends and activities, and you shouldn’t be expected to do it either. Make it perfectly clear that you’ve got your own life, and he can be a part of it, but not all of it.
11. Ignore him.
A weird law of the universe is that when you don’t pay attention to someone, they pay more attention to you – especially if he thinks that you like him. Of course, this isn’t about torturing him or flirting with someone else in front of him – it’s more about not focusing all your attention on him when he’s around.
You don’t have to talk only to him or laugh at all his jokes. It’s okay to keep some distance. In fact, the more distance you keep, the more he’ll be dying to know what you’re thinking. Playing a little hard to get can work wonders for the flame. He’ll probably text you even more often as a result, sine he’ll want to impress you even more!
12. Don’t get too attached to him.
When a guy chases you and wants to give you everything, it’s natural to feel flattered and start relying on the fact that he’ll be around if you need him. If he ends up changing his mind, chasing another girl, or hooking up with someone else, it’s not a position you want to be in.
Don’t to get too attached to him and to try and keep your heart out of it, at least until you know he’s definitely in it for the long run.
13. If he’s not “all that”, drop him.
You might find out that he isn’t what you expected after all and simply isn’t meeting your standards. You know the type of boyfriend you want, and should be prepared to stay clear of someone who doesn’t meet that criteria.
The Bottom Line
Being a high-quality woman who men want to chase, can feel great, but it’s not always that straight-forward. Don’t expect that every guy you meet will be up for the chasing game, and don’t get upset if someone you really like simply doesn’t feel like chasing you and instead goes for the woman who makes it easy for him from day one.
At the core of it, always take a step back as a woman, and make space for him to actually chase you. It requires patience, intelligence, and most of all, extreme confidence in yourself.
In this day and age, most men anticipate that women will chase after them – and most women do! Don’t make it too easy on him by stalking him on social media, always responding to texts right away, or showing up randomly at his favorite bar. Men can see right through that, and will label you as “available” or “easy” – and the prize shouldn’t be easy to win, it should be hard to get.