There are some big, fancy words that young women may hear as they move towards adulthood but struggle to comprehend. The word “promiscuous” is one such word.
Maybe a relative or friend has accused you of being a promiscuous woman, or you may have heard of a friend who was referred to as being one.
So, what does it mean to be a promiscuous woman? Is it good or bad?
A promiscuous woman is a woman that has frequent, casual sex – often with multiple partners. She may be a “working girl” or simply sexually uninhibited.
While promiscuity is frowned upon in many religions and cultures, it is becoming more socially acceptable as women begin to focus more on careers and put off settling down and having a family.
How many partners is considered promiscuous?
Let’s face it, in the new millennium, guys are even less eager to settle down than young women, so it’s a common struggle for girls to find Mr. Right.
Sadly, telling a guy that you are saving yourself for the right man can often lead to the quick end of a budding relationship.
This means that it’s not uncommon for young women to go through a few brief sexual relationships in a few years’ time.
Women today may be more focused on finishing college and climbing the corporate ladder than they are on establishing committed relationships.
But, hey, a girl still has needs, which means that she may engage in casual sex.
Does that mean that she is promiscuous? Not necessarily.
It’s said that having fifteen partners is considered too many nowadays, so if you enjoy an occasional hookup at the bar or are hitting dead ends trying to find the right guy, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are promiscuous.
Is it bad to be promiscuous?
The answer to this question depends on your values and beliefs.
Many devoutly religious people condemn promiscuity, and they are entitled to their beliefs. But if a woman is comfortable with the idea of casual sexual encounters and multiple partners, she’s also entitled to do what she wants with her own body – and ideally, people shouldn’t judge.
Unfortunately, we don’t live in a perfect world, and a promiscuous woman may be subject to being called derogatory names, such as slut or whore.
There will always be bullies and “mean girls” out there, but if you are comfortable with your body and your sex life, and your exploits don’t conflict with your religious or cultural beliefs, ignore the criticism and enjoy your life.
Now, there is the issue of prostitution, which is an entirely different subject, but nevertheless, prostitutes are definitely promiscuous.
Although prostitution is against the law and ill-advised, some prostitutes love their jobs and thrive on the idea of getting paid to give and receive orgasms, while others engage in sex work out of necessity or coercion.
In this case, promiscuity would be bad simply because it involves breaking the law.
Spending the night with a random hot babe who treated you to a steak dinner or purchased rounds of martinis all night is one thing. Accepting cash in return is another story.
What are the risks of being a promiscuous woman?
While there may be a sense of freedom in being sexually uninhibited, there are risks involved in having a promiscuous lifestyle, and it’s important for young women to take precautions before heading home with random babes for a steamy one-night tryst.
Of course, there is the risk of HIV and STDs.
While there are new treatments that can cure some serious STDs, such as Hepatitis, or at least render you unable to transmit the HIV virus to your partners and still live a full life, it’s still smart to practice safe sex.
After all, there are few buzz killers worse than hearing, “Hey, babe. I think you are smoking hot, but I need to let you know that I have the clap.”
Uh, no thank you. Pass.
Although it’s true that condoms are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs, they aren’t 100% effective.
The only surefire ways to avoid STDs are monogamy and abstinence, but where is the fun in that?
Eventually, when you meet that special someone and are ready to settle down, you will only have eyes for your partner.
Until then, it’s best to practice safe sex – and limit the number of partners that you have.
Also, there’s the risk of an unplanned pregnancy.
While some birth control methods are extremely effective at preventing pregnancy, you are still taking the chance of having an unexpected bundle of joy on the way each time you have sex.
No birth control method is 100% effective, but there are options available if you do find yourself unexpectedly expecting, including adoption, parenting, and abortion.
While an unplanned pregnancy can turn a young girl’s life upside down – regardless of how the baby was conceived – it can be downright shameful for a promiscuous woman who doesn’t know who the father is.
Once you read the definition of a promiscuous woman, you probably already figured out that a promiscuous lifestyle comes with the risks of STDs and unplanned pregnancy, but promiscuity can also place a woman’s physical safety in jeopardy.
If you regularly go home with random hookups, you run the risk of date rape, which could end violently. It’s safest to casually hook up with partners that you know and feel safe with.
Why would a woman choose to be promiscuous?
Since there are so many risks of living a promiscuous lifestyle, you may wonder why a woman would take the chance. Sure.
It’s hard to find Mr. Right and many girls don’t have the time to fit a relationship into their busy schedule, but fifteen partners? Isn’t that a little excessive?
As mentioned before, some prostitutes will often choose a promiscuous lifestyle to earn a living or support a drug addiction. But for other women, sex is the drug.
While sex addiction is more common in men, women can struggle with it, too. If you think about it, going home with random guys can be very exciting at the moment.
For these women, an orgasm is the same as a fix would be for a junkie.
Then there are women who have unresolved emotional issues or who believe that sex is the equivalent of love.
In these cases, counseling or the support of a good friend may be needed.
But not all promiscuous women are broken on the inside. Some of them are strong, successful, independent women who find casual sex satisfying and liberating.
In the end, a woman should be able to choose what she does with her own body.
Even so, it’s smartest for promiscuous women to take precautions to protect their health and safety.
Promiscuity isn’t for every woman. Your sex life should align with your beliefs and values, and you shouldn’t compromise them for any partner.
For instance, if you believe in abstinence until marriage, stand firm in your belief – even if you are rejected by many guys for choosing to wait.
The right guy will eventually enter your life.
If you are too busy with college or your new career to get into a committed relationship but aren’t comfortable with the idea of promiscuity, a friends-with-benefits relationship may be a great alternative for no strings attached, no expectations, sex, and companionship.
On the other hand, if you thrive on the excitement of having multiple casual hookups, play it safe and always be prepared with condoms, pepper spray, and a safety plan, such as having a code word for danger that you can text to a BFF or loved one if you happen to hook up with the wrong guy.
If you know a promiscuous woman, don’t call her names or gossip behind her back.
She may be going through a difficult time or could simply be trying to live life to the fullest. Instead, give her a hug and a box of condoms.
Tell her to stay safe and fill you in on the juicy details.
After all, they say variety is the spice of life!
