Many men make a hasty decision when it comes to leaving their partner and perhaps their children too.
After a while, they regret this decision and seek to go back to those they left behind.
Should you accept them back? Why did they leave you and/or their family in the first place? These questions and more shall be answered in this content.
Why did your man leave?
Was this your fault? Most likely it’s because he got into a committed relationship too soon.
He may have discovered too late that he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship.
He never should have married at that young age. Now his way to resolve this issue hurts everyone.
What can be learned from this?
Be aware of this kind of scenario developing when you agree to marry someone. It can happen to a woman too, although we don’t hear about women leaving as much as we do about men.
Nevertheless, people should wait until they are older and ready to settle down before marrying.
Otherwise, it can only lead to a painful conclusion down the line.
Why is he returning now after so long?
Maybe he is finally realizing he made a huge mistake. He misses you and the kids and longs to be part of your lives again. This sort of scenario happens.
Should you let him back into your life?
This depends on your true feelings for him. At this point, there is a lot less trust between the two of you. How do you know he won’t leave again?
Are you ready to move forward and forgive him? What about the kids? How do they feel about it?
Does this only happen to heterosexual couples?
No, men or women in same-sex relationships can experience the same kind of feelings that heterosexual couples do.
A partner leaving the relationship can happen just as often in a same-sex relationship.
How can they deal with the situation?
The same way that heterosexual couples deal with it. The same reasons for leaving can occur. Therefore, the same suggestions for dealing with the separation can occur.
Maybe this person misses you and wants to return. It is up to you whether to accept them back or not.
Who can establish the no-contact rule when a partner leaves?
In actuality, either partner can. You may not hear from him for a while, of his own choosing.
He can be off trying to make a new start for himself and refrain from contacting you or the kids.
Or it could be the wife that institutes the no-contact policy. She is likely very angry with him for leaving and forbids him from communicating with her or the family.
The same kinds of scenarios are also possible in a same-sex union.
How can a parent suddenly leaving impact the kids?
No matter which parent is leaving, it can do irreversible harm to their offspring. The kids will likely think they are the ones to blame.
They will not understand why that parent has no contact with them or their other parent.
The parent with their custody may see periods of rebellion at home or in school. The kids’ grades may suffer.
They could turn to drugs or alcohol to try to deal with their pain. All sorts of bad things can surface.
Would a woman who left and had no contact with her partner want to return?
Yes, it can certainly go this way too. A woman may feel like she married and had children at too young an age. So she leaves to explore a career or to see the world.
Sometimes she wants to find herself and experience life as a single person. Then a few years later she misses her spouse and/or her kids and tries to go back.
Should her husband accept her back?
This is the reverse scenario of what we already discussed. He can accept her back if he wants to. However, the relationship might never be the same.
There will always be resentment and doubt as to her sincerity. Plus, maybe by now he has found a new spouse and is making a life with her.
Can this type of occurrence be avoided?
Yes, it can if they do not rush into marriage. This is particularly true of younger people. Yet it can apply to older couples too.
In the case of a single parent who is dating again, it is possible for them to rush into a commitment too soon.
In this situation, the parent who is single discovers they enjoyed that status after they hook up with someone else.
Then they give the boot to the intruding person and establish a no-contact policy.
How does having no contact affect a man?
He can become bitter and angry towards his now-ex spouse. He can feel humiliated and afraid at the same time. The fear would tend to come with respect to their kids.
It could be he feels no remorse about what happened with his spouse. Yet he is terrified that his kids will hate him.
Other things that can happen are him turning to bad habits to mitigate the pain.
Things such as sleeping around, eating disorders, substance abuse, self-destructive behavior, and so on.
We must add that these same things can happen to a woman having no contact with her spouse or children.
If you allow your partner to come back into your life, could they leave again?
Absolutely yes. They could have a type of personality that never is satisfied.
This person is never able to settle down and make a commitment even if he loves you.
This is a big reason why you ought to get to know your significant other before you marry them.
A lot of heartaches can be avoided when you discover these traits beforehand.
How to end the relationship if your mate wants to leave to discover themselves
This is often another term for playing the field. He or she has become uninterested in you and wants to see what other choices are out there.
This is fine if it is what he wants. But you should break off the relationship at this point.
He cannot expect to do this and still keep your heart on a string. Make him choose between you and the single life.
How big of a role should your kids play in your decision to take him back?
It depends on their ages. Very young children will typically want both parents in their lives.
They do not understand all the ramifications of what took place or what could happen going forward.
For their sake, you might be better off taking your ex-partner back.
With older kids, it is better for you to have a heartfelt chat with them. You can explain everything to them and try to help them understand.
With them, there is more of a possibility that they will resent the parent who left and not want to contact them anymore.
This is the chance he is taking when he decides to leave in the first place.