Navigating the world of dating has always been tricky enough, let alone navigating the world of dating with smartphones and wireless internet.
If you are talking to a guy and he stops texting in the middle of a conversation, you might be feeling confused and taken aback.
Most often, when a guy stops texting in the middle of a conversation, he is simply busy or has been interrupted, but it may also mean that he is not really into you in a romantic or flirtatious way.
Knowing how to pick up on social cues can help you to better understand if a guy is really into you or not.
Why do people typically stop texting during a conversation?
People stop texting a friend or loved one for a number of reasons.
Most often, someone may find themselves interrupted, distracted, or busy with other tasks at work or even with their home life.
Texting is casual and does not always demand a person’s full attention, which is why some can easily become distracted or distanced from the action, even if they are smack dab in the middle of an ongoing conversation with someone else.
Some of the most common reasons why someone might stop texting you back even if you are in mid-conversation might include:
- They are busy driving, walking, or moving around doing something other than being on their phone at the moment
- They were recently interrupted or distracted by another task, person, or job
- They have simply stepped away and are doing something else
- They may have forgotten the conversation
- They may be tired of carrying on the conversation or the speed of the conversation and they are looking for a way to slow it down
If you do believe the person you are texting is simply avoiding you or ignoring your conversation, your best bet is to allow them some time alone.
Bombarding them with additional text messages or questions can quickly become overwhelming and annoying, which may cause them to distance themselves from you even more.
Is it normal for a guy to stop texting in the middle of a conversation?
Yes, it can be completely normal for a guy or a girl to stop texting back while you are in the middle of a conversation.
Some of the reasons listed above provide insight into why a guy may stop texting you even while you are mid-conversation.
However, it is also important to look at the context in which the text messages were sent, as well as the overall mood or direction of the conversation.
If the guy you are texting is clearly not into the conversation you are attempting to have with him, he may attempt to distance himself and remove himself from texting with you altogether.
It is also possible that the guy you are texting is, in fact, into you, but is currently preoccupied or has become distracted by his everyday life, causing delays in his text responses.
It is important to take into account all factors whenever you are texting someone new to avoid jumping to conclusions.
How can I tell if he is lying when he tells me he was interrupted during a texting conversation?
It is not always easy to tell if a guy is lying when he says he is interrupted during a text conversation, especially if you are just getting to know one another.
If you are familiar with who you are talking to or if you have known him for quite some time, you will have a better idea of when he is lying or making excuses just to avoid talking to you.
Any time you are dealing with a guy who is lying to get away from a conversation with you, it is best to look elsewhere for a partner or friend who is happy to reciprocate and will do so without lying to you about his intentions or motives.
Signs that a guy is telling the truth about not texting you back
If you are talking to a guy and he has let you know that he is busy, preoccupied, or that he has been interrupted during your conversations, knowing if he is telling the truth can help you to put your own mind at ease.
Some signs that a guy is telling the truth about not being able to text you back or immediately respond to your texts include:
- He is upfront about what has happened or why he was distant or distracted
- He has no issue with apologizing or letting you know that he did not intend to ignore you
- He seems genuine in his response and the way that he comes across to you
- It is not a regular habit or problem in your relationship (regardless of how long you have been seeing one another or talking to each other)
- He is direct and upfront and does not beat around the bush when telling you how he feels and what his intentions are, especially when it comes to the relationship you have with one another
Will a guy stop texting in the middle of a conversation if he is no longer interested in me?
He can. A man or a woman who is losing interest in a texting partner may find it easier to distance themselves by simply ignoring the messages they receive or responding at a slower pace.
If a guy stops texting you in the middle of a conversation without any reason or excuse for doing so, he may simply not be as interested in you as you are in him.
If you believe this is the case, it is best to take a step back from texting the guy you are into to see if he will be the one to message you and pursue a relationship with you.
Why won’t a guy tell me directly if he is no longer interested in seeing me or talking with me?
Unfortunately, relationships are not always simple and/or straightforward, which can be confusing and upsetting for all who are involved.
If you are texting with a guy and he begins to ignore you or his text messages trickle in slowly each day, it can be frustrating not to know where you stand.
In some cases, a guy may be direct and upfront with you to let you know he is no longer interested in seeing you or talking with you.
However, others may be more fearful and unwilling to confront you directly, which is why they choose the route of “ghosting” or slowly distancing themselves from you, even in text.
Is it possible that I am overthinking the amount of time that it takes for him to reply to my texts?
Yes, this is very possible. If you are someone who typically overthinks just about everything that involves your relationship, it is very likely that you are overthinking the amount of time it is taking for the guy you are texting to respond to you.
Not all men enjoy text messaging, and some may prefer to simply discuss plans and have conversations over the phone.
Because all men (and women) are different when it comes to their own texting styles as well as their own preferences when communicating with those they are dating, it is imperative to take a step back to evaluate the relationship you are in as well as the personality type of the man you are texting with.
Some men will make it a top priority to read and respond to text messages as quickly as possible, while others may wait hours or even an entire day to get back to someone they are interested in.
What is the average time to wait in between text messages when talking with a new guy I like?
The time you should wait in between sending text messages to a new guy you like will vary based on the type of relationship you are both interested in pursuing as well as the personalities of the two of you.
If you are both excited about texting immediately, you will know that the guy you are into is also interested in receiving texts immediately.
However, if you are unsure of how he will feel if you begin texting him numerous times each day after just getting to know someone, it is best to take your time and wait in between the messages you send.
Waiting at least a few hours in between each text message you send to someone you are getting to know is advisable.
In fact, it is best to avoid sending more than 2–3 texts simultaneously when you are chatting with a new guy you like, at least until you know if he is receptive to active texting.
Gauging how much a guy enjoys texting is also an important aspect of dating to keep in mind, whether you are new to the dating pool or trying to find a partner who is genuinely compatible with you and your needs.
Do all guys text the same? How do I know if this guy is texting like his normal usual self or if he is trying to distance himself from me?
Not all guys text the same, as some men prefer to speak over the phone while others may avoid texting their partners and/or significant others altogether.
When you are getting to know someone via text, it is not always easy to tell whether or not they are interested in texting or if they prefer getting together in person or having a phone call.
If you are new to texting a guy, allow them time and space to respond to your messages to get to know more about how they prefer to communicate.
Taking time to gauge how a man prefers to text or communicate can help you to know whether he is trying to distance himself from you or if he is simply not that into texting.
Once you are familiar with his texting style, you can remove the guesswork from dating him and getting to know him on a deeper level.
Is it bad to wait some time in between texts that I send to the guy I like?
No, not always. Waiting a few minutes, an hour, or even a day in between text messages can be helpful when getting to know someone without seeming too interested or clingy.
Allowing for some time in between the messages you send to a guy you like will also allow him more time to think about what it is that he is interested in pursuing when it comes to your relationship with one another.