You’ve been in the dating pool for far too long. While you’ve had passionate flings and tumultuous relationships, none of them last like you want them to.
Here are some reasons why, try as you might, guys never want a relationship with you.
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1. He’s already in a relationship.
Life has transformed since the advent of the Internet. People create profiles on different social media sites and put on personas that have very little to do with their real selves. Be wary of a guy who does not talk about his personal life at all. He might not want a relationship with you because he is in a relationship with someone else.
2. He’s not interested in you.
This reason is heartbreaking, but it may be the harsh truth. Guys tend to be open and vocal about their feelings. If you feel like you’ve been dropping hints but he hasn’t been picking them up, it’s probably because he doesn’t want to.
If he’s not interested, he won’t ask you out.
3. He’s stringing you along.
A lot of times, guys don’t want a relationship, but they also don’t want the girl in their life to go away. They want a friendship with benefits and are basically seeking all of the fun without any responsibility. If he hangs out with you all the time but doesn’t show romantic interest in you, it’s because he only wants to take and never give back.
4. You give him too much intimacy.
This is an easy one: If you sleep with a guy regularly when you’re not officially in a relationship, he’ll see you as a booty call at best. He’ll see you as the person he should go to when he feels frisky. You can’t be his girlfriend if he’s only using you for sex.
5. He sees you as a good friend.
Let’s be honest here; not every boy-girl relationship needs to be romantic. Friendships are beautiful, and sometimes this bond is stronger than the romance itself.
If you feel like he and you are great friends, keep it that way. Don’t risk losing a lifelong friendship for a relationship that may or may not work out.
6. He’s been hurt in the past.
A lot of guys have been in love and lost it, and aren’t interested in being in a relationship anymore. Your guy may be going through an emotionally unavailable phase, and no matter how great your friendship or your chemistry with him is, he’s not going asking you out.
7. He’s not ready to be in a committed relationship.
Men are strange. While they love female company, most of them are just too scared to be tied down. If a man resists being in a relationship with you, it may be because he just isn’t ready for a relationship.
8. He Likes Someone Else
The heart wants it wants, unfortunately, his wants someone else. If the man you’re interested in has never shown romantic interest in you, it’s because he’s pining over someone else.
This kind of man will make it very clear that he likes someone else by constantly talking about her.
9. He isn’t sure about your feelings.
Some men are sensitive, great allies, and don’t pressurize you at the chance at romance – even when they have strong feelings of love towards you. If that’s the case, drop stronger hints or confess first. Chances are he’s waiting for you to make the first move.
10. He doesn’t catch on to your hints.
Sometimes men are just completely oblivious. He doesn’t watch a lot of romantic movies, and might treat romance as an option neither here nor there.
Since he’s so inept at love, he just doesn’t catch all the hints you’ve been dropping at him. While he may be a smart cookie, when it comes to matters of the heart he’s as clueless as he was the day he was born.
11. He’s using you.
If you don’t make the men in your life work hard to get you into bed with them, they’re never going to see you as potential girlfriends. To them, you’re just an object of pure lust.
12. He doesn’t want anyone else to have you.
A lot of guys are scared when it comes to relationships. They’re so scared of being tied down that they won’t commit to a girl no matter what. So, he’ll just lead you on and keep you around so that he might still have a chance with you.
13. He doesn’t see a future with you.
While the two of you may be great friends, that’s just what you are: friends. The two of you may have different schedules, career trajectories, and priorities.
It’s not love that’s missing; its what would make it work that’s missing. You can’t build a house without a foundation, can you?
14. He’s a narcissist.
Narcissists love worshippers. If you’re available at his every beck and call, respond to his every whim, and are there for him no matter how much he pushes you away, he’s probably pegged you as his groupie.
He doesn’t see you as a human, let alone a potential love interest. If this sounds familiar, there’s only one thing left to do: run.
15. You aren’t relationship material.
Sometimes, the people we love aren’t at fault – we are. There might be some reasons why no matter how hard someone tries; they just can’t be in a relationship with you. It could be any reason, including:
- You’re a narcissist. Narcissists are some of the hardest people to date. They have an inflated sense of self-importance that makes them want to always be the center of attention. Analyze yourself and see: are you the kind of person who likes to be pampered 24/7 – and can’t handle it when somebody doesn’t shower you with attention?
- You’re a flirt. Girls can be flirts too! While you may not actually sleep with someone else, there might be clear sexual tension between you and many other guys. If you do like to sleep around, guys who may be genuinely interested in you will hesitate from committing to you.
- You don’t make time for him. Let’s face it. You’re a busy woman. But are you there for the guy you are dating? While you might be sincere and even in love with the person you are dating, the constant rain checks may make them never want to commit.
- You’re insecure. Insecurity is the thief of joy. Even the best, most wonderful, beautiful, and interesting people will get insecure from time to time. However, if you struggle with loving yourself, others will struggle to love you too.
- It’s always you before anyone else. People often struggle to be in meaningful relationships because they can’t put anyone before themselves. You might not be relationship material because you’re too unaccommodating.
- You’re unhygienic. Does your breath always smell bad? Does a week pass by before you take a shower? Do you wear the same T-shirt for four days in a row? While attraction is subjective, and you don’t need to change aspects of your body that make you feel like yourself, grooming can help a bit. Taking care of your skin and body can make you look more polished and attractive.
- You’re boring. If you don’t have much to offer in terms of conversation, try to develop interests of your own. Be the kind of person that doesn’t need a relationship to keep them occupied.
- You overthink things. Maybe you overreact or spiral out of control when your significant other leaves messages unread or doesn’t respond. Because of constant overthinking, you may pick fights when there are none.
- You’re struggling financially. Maybe you’re paying off loans or other debt, and you might be freeloading off the people you date. That’s an unattractive habit – and people may not want to be in a relationship with you because of it.
- You take care of him too much. While it’s great to take care of the people you love, you often get put into the “mommy” category – which makes it hard to see you as more than a friend.
- You choose the wrong guys. Some women tend to go for men that might be considered “bad boys”, believing that they can change them with their love. But no matter how “different” you think these guys are, they’ll always find it hard to commit, because news flash: they’re bad boys.
- You’re melodramatic. Do you lose your cool too often? Do you become overemotional at the slightest skirmish or inconveniences? . People may steer away from you because of your constant melodrama.
- You’re too closed up. Maybe it takes too much time for you to open up to the people around you. If you’re too shy, or don’t share how you feel, then the minute they get bored they’re out the door.
- You’re still hung up on an ex. You’re can’t stop thinking about the one who got away that you talk about him with everyone – including the new guy you’re dating. This puts your potential beaus on edge, and they often leave thinking you’re just not emotionally available.
- Your mental health is suffering. Sometimes, while you may be ready for a relationship, your mental health might not be. Mood swings and side effects of antidepressants may make you difficult to deal with, and most people aren’t ready for that commitment in the initial phases of a relationship. Take time to focus on yourself before trying to find a relationship.
- You’re too jealous. If you’ve been hurt before, you may be untrusting. Even when the supposed “perfect” man comes along, you’re too jealous and just can’t bring yourself to trust him.
- You’re too demanding. While you’re great, fun to be around and also super attractive, you might just expect a lot. While it’s great to have high expectations, sometimes your significant other finds them unreasonable.
If you’re looking for a fruitful, fulfilling, long-term relationship you have to realize that the passion and enthusiasm of new love won’t immediately develop into a successful relationship. You have to put in the required time and effort to make it work.
