Once couples finish their honeymoon phase and settle into the monotony of everyday life, it’s easy for them to feel as if their relationship has lost its spark. And this is often true!
Sometimes, the easy sexual connection you had before you officially got together fades as you settle into the partnership, routines set in, and responsibilities enter the scene.
Because of this, couples also seem to lose the spark in the bedroom, settling for boring moves and the same old ways of giving each other pleasure.
Eventually, this makes them worry about their relationship.
But the spark in the bedroom can always be reignited. Read on to see the freaky things you can do with your boyfriend to put the zest back in your sex life.
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1. Wear some lingerie
You probably know what your boyfriend’s favorite sexy outfit is. But have you stopped wearing it? Or have you never added new pieces to your wardrobe to keep things fresh?
Now is the time to draw attention to the gorgeous body you have and why your boyfriend fell head over heels in love with you in the first place.
Wear the lingerie set he likes best on you, lie back on the bed, and ask him to have his way with you. He sure will.
2. Steam it up with a massage
Massages are typically a feminine domain but switching things up for mutual pleasure never hurts. After all, men deserve some love too.
On a casual Sunday, ask your partner to slip his clothes off, push him on the bed, and climb on top.
Grab that bottle of jojoba oil you’ve been saving and go to town. You can also remove your clothes if you want to steam things up even more.
3. Text him something freaky
Like anyone else, men like to be wanted, loved, and praised. In this text, don’t just tell him how much you love him, let him know how you crave his body too.
Don a set of provocative lingerie, take a picture, and send it to him along with a sexy message.
If you aren’t comfortable doing that, let him know how sexy you find him, why you are waiting for him, and what you’d like to do to him as soon as he comes home.
Nothing makes a man fall back in love with you faster than the mention of steamy sex.
4. Perform a striptease
Remember that striptease you performed for your partner at the beginning of your relationship? Do you recall the intense way he stared at you, stripping you with his eyes?
Settling into a routine can sometimes make us let go of things that matter. If that’s you, then now is the time to let go of monotony and try something freaky.
A striptease is one of the best ways to turn up the heat in your relationship.
Wear a sexy outfit (with some hot lingerie underneath). Have your partner sit on a chair and slowly undress without touching him or asking him for help.
Look directly into his eyes, bite your lip, and let your clothes fall to the floor. He’ll be drooling by the time you’ll be completely nude.
5. Tease him with kisses
Making out in private can be both enjoyable and sexually stimulating but making out in public is a whole new terrain.
When you’re out and about, find a secluded spot learn what sexual tension is really like.
Begin by peppering his lips with gentle kisses, trailing your lips down his neck for added stimulation. Continue this for a few moments, and then go for something deeper.
After a brief moment, pull away, leaving him wanting for more. After a minute of caressing and stroking, kiss him again.
The more you repeat this, the more desperate he’ll get. So, by the time you both reach home, you’ll be burning with sexual tension and ready for the hottest sex of your life.
6. Play a game of footsie
When you’re at home, on the couch, or at a restaurant, you play a little footsie.
Try running your foot up to your boyfriend’s calf or knee and move back down to his feet. Repeat the motions using long, even strokes.
You can even glide your foot up to his inner thigh, slowly building tension until he’s ready to pick you up and give you the time of your life.
7. Take a seat on his lap
A lap dance is always sexy, but when it’s done by someone you know and love, then the sexual tension is off the charts.
If you want to surprise your boyfriend with a lap dance, take advantage of a time when he’s sitting in a comfortable place.
Hug him gently and climb on top of him. You can also grind against him, ensuring that his attention is only on you.
8. Send him a naughty photo (at an inappropriate place)
If you want freaky in the real sense, nothing does it better than sending your guy nudes when he’s busy at work or out with his friends.
Ladies, remember the law of sending nudes: less is more. Tease him and remind him how sexy his girlfriend is and always leave him wanting more.
You want to be coy, sexy, and provocative at the same time. That is to say, don’t send completely nude photos right away.
Choose the body part he likes best and keep the naughty photos centered around that.
Does he love your butt? Send him a flattering picture. If it’s your legs he loves, send him sexy pictures of your long, long legs and keep him wanting more.
9. Eat something suggestively
Eating anything sensually in front of your partner is one of the sexiest things you can do.
Biting suggestively into bananas and licking ice cream are popular choices. You may, however, eat pretty much anything sensually. It’s all in how you go about it.
Eating something in a sexy way means plenty of stroking, biting, and eye contact. All of these can be done when you’re having dinner at home or when you’re out on a date.
10. Play a game of strip poker
Almost every game can be turned into a naked activity, but strip poker leaves them all in the dust.
When you’re setting out to play a game of strip poker, don a set of racy lingerie underneath your clothes, preferably one that is your boyfriend’s favorite, and aim to lose.
After all, the loser takes off all their clothes. Just make sure to give your boyfriend plenty of chances to lose as well.
As the game progresses and you remove each layer of clothing, your boyfriend’s eyes will get darker and darker until they’re smoldering.
By the time all the clothes fall to the floor, you’ll both be panting for more. It’s up to you to decide what happens next.
11. Dominate him the next time you have sex
It’s men who typically like to make the first move, yet as much as they enjoy it, your sex life does run the risk of becoming tedious if they’re the one to initiate sex all the time.
Shall we tell you a little secret? When a woman makes the first move, their men adore it. This move exudes confidence and aggression – and is quite seductive.
So, take your boyfriend’s hand and take him to your bed when he least expects it. Ask him to make himself comfortable, and while he’s watching, start stripping off your clothes.
He’ll adore seeing you so in command. Who knows – maybe you’ll love it as well.
12. Talk dirty to him
Men appreciate it when you talk dirty to them, and it doesn’t always have to be X-rated. Simply tell your boyfriend what you’d like him to do to you.
Be as precise as possible. Don’t be stingy with your words.
Share your erotic ideas with your boyfriend the next time you have some. He’ll adore it, especially if it’s something you don’t often do.
13. Have sex in front of a mirror
When things start to heat up, whisper in your partner’s ear how sexy they are – and say that you want a better view.
Take them in front of a mirror and watch as they ravage you.
This is especially freaky and fun if you guys have oral or anal sex. You will be able to see them having fun and getting nasty with you. Watching yourself have sex also turns up the heat for the two of you.
14. Spank it up
Spanking can be quite painful. That said, it’s best not to startle your partner and ruin the scene by giving a slap out of nowhere.
Give them a quick smack on the butt cheek with an open palm the next time you’re having passionate, purely instinctual sex.
You can spank them a little more if they look interested.
Spanking is a great arousal tactic for both men and women, and you may just find that it’s something you want to incorporate into your sex life more often.
15. Make yourself icy
We’re not referring to the classic move of putting an ice cube in your mouth before performing oral sex. However, if that’s what you’re looking for, go for it!
Ice cubes are the simplest sex toy on the market, and they’re ideal for tracing over your partner’s body for a chillingly pleasant sensation when things get steamy.
16. Roleplay it up
We know that to many couples roleplaying seems unnecessary and hard to do.
They might even think it’s lame and boring, but there is a keen wonder to it if you allow yourself to be experimental and freaky.
Roleplay is a very popular sexual fantasy; it lets act in ways you wouldn’t normally act, which is very liberating.
Roleplay is a healthy method for living out a fantasy and getting naughty, whether it’s between a boss and a secretary, a physician and a patient, a student and a professor, or anything else.
17. Take a shower together
Even the tiniest gestures can quickly thrill guys.
So, if you’ve never taken a shower together, you and your lover should try it at least once. You’ll never know if you’ll like something this weird and dirty until you try it.
Invite your partner to join you in the shower whenever you like, or, surprise him while he is already in the shower.
This will make him particularly attracted to you, and he will see you in a new light.
18. Dabble in some bondage
Perhaps you’ve decided against bondage because purchasing handcuffs or other devices is too strange for you.
If that’s the case, opt for a more subdued accessory, such as a tie or scarf. Wrap it around their wrists and tie them to a chair before going down on them.
If you prefer a more passive role, ask your lover if they want to tie you to the headboard and have their way with you. We’re betting the answer will be a resounding yes.
19. Get him hard again
Men are sexual beings.
All they think about is sex – even after they have just finished having sex.
If you ask your guy to go for another round of sex with you after your guy has just finished, it will make him get a hard-on again.
Women are generally shy about demanding more sex, but seeing you ask for it will turn him on again. He will love this crazy, freaky side of you.
20. Have a steamy quickie
The routine of everyday life can make having sex a chore. If you want to turn your relationship into a freak fest, then having sex on the go is just the thing for you.
If you want to liven up your sex life, you can try having crazy quickies with your boyfriend.
You can do it in the morning by taking a hot shower together or meeting up over your lunch break and devouring each other.
The anticipation will keep you both going and longing for the next time you see each other. A quickie will keep your partner thinking about you and the next time they can get their hands on you.
Final Thoughts
To keep things interesting in the bedroom, you should be willing to try new things, listen to your partner’s suggestions, and voice your thoughts about how to improve your sex life.
Most men seek variety, so if you’re on a set schedule right now, try breaking away from it and surprise him with some freaky yet fun things to do.
Make it a goal to try out one new item from this list each week. If you’re shy, start small and gradually increase your confidence.
