So, you’ve just got someone’s number…
Nice work!
But what are you waiting for?
Don’t worry if you’re not sure how to start a conversation with your crush on Whatsapp, as you are not alone. There are millions of people around the world with the same problem as you. And hey, who knows, maybe your crush is searching for how to message you!?
In this article, we dive into the importance of texting the correct message to your crush. After all, first impressions count for a lot, especially when it comes to relationships.
The good news is that we will now be revealing the correct message to send, which should get the ‘love ball’ rolling.
Table of Contents
1. Use Greetings That Get Replies
If this is the first time contacting your crush, you need to think twice before using a standard “hello” message.
The important lesson here is to use a greeting that demands a reply. Even better, you can use a greeting that sparks a new conversation.
Mention something you have previously talked about or something you have noticed in their profile picture.
If that fails, bring out your box of memes.
2. Take Your Time
There’s no rush here.
You don’t have to reply to your crush within 10 minutes.
When texting your crush, it’s understandable to be excited and wanting to reply straight away. However, it’s a good idea to think about your message before you send it. You don’t want to overwhelm your crush either, so play it cool.
3. Don’t Be Weird
Okay, now we have them responding, we need to keep our calm and not be weird…
Be yourself. But keep your cool.
It’s typical for someone to go overboard on emojis or exclamation marks. In fact, many people get so excited that they can’t stop texting.
Even though you’re excited, it doesn’t mean your crush is excited too. The last thing you want to do is annoy your crush by asking too many questions.
There is plenty of time to wow your crush with your awesomeness.
4. Be Unique
Although you don’t want to be weird, it is still important to be yourself and not too boring. As you converse with each other, you should use your personal wit to flirt and joke. Keep it exciting.
5. Compliment
Who doesn’t love receiving a compliment?
As such, pay a few compliments to your crush.
Doing so will give them a great feeling, while also allowing them to see how much of a kind person you are.
Feel free to compliment their looks, personality, or even their mindset.
The only rules are to be genuine and limit the number of compliments you give, as the power of a compliment diminishes if you are giving one every five minutes.
6. Use Memes and Gifs
Memes have become a form of language in their own right. In fact, you can now take a degree in them…
They are the perfect way to express feelings without using words.
They are also nothing short of hilarious.
WhatsApp allows users to search for their perfect meme; right there inside the app.
Alternatively, you can become a Meme Lord by building your own collection, so you’re ready for any situation.
Memes are also a good way to save a conversation or start a new one. So if the conversation has gone dead for a day or two, throw a funny meme into the chat.
I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve saved a conversation by using a meme. Simply send one, and then caption it with something like “this reminded me of you”.
7. Intimacy
Your conversation should be more than laughs.
Well, unless you want to enter the dreaded friend zone…
It’s a good idea to make an attempt at intimacy by using their name, asking personal questions, and showing that you care.
Be careful when asking personal questions, as you don’t want to step over the line. You want your crush to feel comfortable talking to you, and sharing personal details can increase the bond between the pair of you.
8. Laughter Charm
Humor is one of the main attributes that people look for in a partner.
As such, try to bring out your funny side.
Using puns is a great way to keep your crush on their toes.
Jokes can work, but it’s preferable to reference earlier moments of your discussion when it comes to making your crush laugh.
9. Voice Message
Feeling brave?
Then send your crush a voice message.
Doing this will not only seriously impress your crush, but it will build intimacy and break the ice into a million pieces.
WhatsApp include this feature for a reason – so use it!
Try to keep the messages short but sweet.
Voice messages will allow your crush to hear your voice, and maybe you’ll hear their voice in return too. Don’t put too much pressure on them to return the favor though, as they may be understandably nervous.
10. Share Photos
Whether you’ve just got back from a wicked holiday or you’re proud of your super-cute new hamster, sharing pictures with your crush is a good way to build a conversation.
Be selective about which pictures you share, as you don’t want to give your crush the wrong idea. You may think your picture is harmless, but your crush will likely get their magnifying glass out to inspect every pixel of the image.
Hopefully, your crush will share some of their favorite or recent pictures. Don’t be surprised if this leads to the two of you exchanging embarrassing photos from over the years.
11. Dreams and Desires
When thinking of topics to discuss with your crush on WhatsApp, their dreams and desires should be one of your first choices.
It’s the perfect way to discover what your crush sees for the rest of their life, which allows you to see if you want similar things in the future.
12. Stay on Your Game
Be consistent when texting your crush.
This means not leaving them ‘on read’, which totally gives the wrong idea.
Imagine you are going back and forth with your crush, and then they suddenly don’t respond for two days… a bit weird, right?!
You will want to show that you respect them and won’t play games with their emotions.
Conversely, don’t panic if your crush doesn’t reply immediately. We live busy lives, so don’t bombard your crush if you’re still waiting for a reply.
13. Ask Open-Ended Questions
Asking questions that can be answered with a yes or no answer is a guaranteed way to kill the conversation.
You want to ask open-ended questions that keep the conversation going.
Try to ask questions that you think will lead to in-depth conversations. In fact, these are questions that will likely result in follow-up questions.
Here are a few examples:
- What is your favorite country you’ve traveled to?
- What are you most passionate about?
- What do you think about *insert specific news event*?
14. Send a Selfie
This is the selfie generation, so if you can’t put your reaction into words, then say it with your face.
You can send pictures right there on the app, without needing to exit the app. Snapchat is the app to use if you want pictures to disappear. But hey, we won’t ask why you may want that…
15. Make it About Them
Me me me…
The chat can’t be all about your day.
It’s important to show that you care about your crush. So ask how their day was, how their job is going, congratulate them for achievements, etc.
This will instantly make it an enjoyable experience to talk to you. Furthermore, your crush will start to trust you and see you for the good person you are.
16. Be Edgy
Keep your crush on their toes by being a little edgy.
But what do we mean by this?
Well, try to be a bit different by using cheeky comments. You can tease your crush, give them a nickname, or use unique humor.
17. Video Call
We previously mentioned sending voice notes, but if that’s too tame for you, then jump on a video call together.
These can start as quick calls, which then lead to hours of talking as you become more comfortable with each other.
Video calls allow the two of you to communicate on a more realistic level that can be seen as a virtual date.
18. Common Interests
It’s always good to talk about what your crush is into.
Your crush will be at their happiest when talking about what they love doing.
Plus you’ll discover any common interests that you share, which can lead to hours of chat. It could even lead to a date…
19. Dogs or Cats?
Here’s another way to find out more about who your crush really is.
Now, you don’t have to specifically ask if they prefer cats or dogs, but this is the type of question that can lead to fun conversations and playful teasing.
As you are likely new to each other, the conversation can sometimes have moments of silence. These types of questions are great for adding instant spark and depth to the chat.
“Pineapple on pizza – Yes or no?”
20. Goodbye… For Now
The end of your conversation is just as important as the start.
Now, hopefully you’ll be talking to your crush the following day, but you will want to ‘sign off’ correctly.
You may want to finish with a cheeky ending that allows the conversation to flow onto the next day.
The number one rule is to stay memorable.
How to Guarantee Success?
Use the lessons in this article when talking to your crush on WhatsApp. You shouldn’t go too far wrong. However, there are four important things to remember when chatting to your crush online. The following tips could be the deciding factors between success and failure.
- Use Words Wisely: As with all forms of text message, there is a risk that your messages are misunderstood. You see, they can’t hear the tone in your voice or the expression on your face. This is why you need to use your words wisely. Try to think how each sentence will sound, along with whether it could be misunderstood or not. Emojis and memes can be used when making jokes that are on the riskier side.
- Fail to Prepare, Prepare To Fail: It can be a good idea to make a plan and stick to it. Before diving in, think about where you want the conversation to go. Is there anything you want to find out? Do you want to ask your crush out on a date? You may also want to start the conversation when you’re in a good mood and have enough free time to focus on the conversation.
- No Games: Game playing is one of the most hated things when it comes to dating, so avoid it like the plague. Don’t purposefully wait two days before replying just because you want to play hard to get. At the same time, if you’re busy, you’re busy.
- What Your Crush is Really Saying: You may want to read into how your crush is responding to your messages. Are they giving in-depth answers or are they giving blunt replies? Also, how is your crush responding to flirty messages? Finding the answer to these questions will tell you whether or not your crush is into you too. If so, go for it!
Final Thoughts
While things may appear to be going well, it’s important to always respect the boundaries. Getting flirty with your crush is fine if they’re cool with it. But make sure you’re always reading the signs and non-verbal cues.
Sometimes you may think you’ve hit it off, only to be chucked into the friend-zone. In such case, respect their position by withdrawing from any flirty behavior. The last thing you want to do is make your crush feel uncomfortable or pressured.
