Most women tend to be attracted to tall, hot men who look like models. However, we often overlook the fact that the conventional “supermodel” boyfriend with his washboard abs and his tanned arms might just be overrated. When it comes to romantic love that can lift you off your feet, these men often drop the ball.
Don’t get us wrong – we don’t have a vendetta against hot men. All we’re saying, is why try only one flavor of ice cream when there are so many flavors to choose from?
Introducing the nerdy boyfriend– a great new type of boyfriend in town who is guaranteed to give all the typical bad boys a run for their money. Keep reading to learn why nerdy guys make the best boyfriends!
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1. He’s enthusiastic about the things he enjoys.
Being a nerd often means being dedicated to something that no one else understands. Nerds have spent their entire lives loving a book series, TV show, or even a movie with such a fascination that their devotion is worthy of applause.
Sure, these things might seem like a waste of time to some people – but his ability to enjoy the raw beauty in something long after everyone has stopped obsessing over it shows that when he loves something, he’s in it for the long run.
If he is genuinely attracted to you and fascinated by you, then you should reciprocate those feelings – because a nerd will make you feel like the most special girl in the world every single day.
2. He’s a person you can learn from.
A nerd is also a treasure trove of information. Because he’s obsessed with learning, researching, and the art of discovery, he’ll know so much about each of his areas of interest that it’ll take you by surprise.
There’s a good chance you’d learn something new about the world and everything in it whenever you hang out with him. Plus, his passion for the mundane and almost boring things in life is infectious. You’ll find yourself telling him fun facts about the Amazon rainforest in no time, just to match his enthusiasm.
3. He has an unique curiosity about life.
Nerds have an insatiable curiosity about why things work the way they do. Their incurable inquisitiveness for everything leads them to explore and discover why and how to make things work.
You might be wondering why that makes him a great boyfriend. It’s simple: he’ll also spend a lot of time exploring you. Whether this means exploring your mind or your body, your nerdy boyfriend will leave no stone unturned to absolutely devour you like his favorite book.
4. He’s handy.
Is there a bug on your computer? Are you having trouble understanding a particularly hard problem in your Advanced Mathematics class? Do you have a problem with your vehicle?
You don’t have to worry about the little things when you’re dating a nerd.
He likely has spent his entire early life trying to learn new things and experimenting with things until he came to a solution – so a nerdy boyfriend will have the solution to all your little everyday problems.
Even if he doesn’t have the answer right away, you can rest assured that he’ll find a solution for you.
5. He won’t have a huge ego.
Many men derive their self-esteem from their physical appearance. Some men buy an expensive automobile to compensate for their lack of personality, and others start working out to compensate for the fact that they aren’t particularly handsome. These mechanisms make them feel a little better and a little less insecure about themselves.
On the other hand, nerds have a strong sense of self-assurance. They don’t need other people’s approval. Their intelligence is what gives them self-assurance, and consequently, they don’t feel compelled to brag or make up for it in other ways.
6. He will appreciate you.
Because most nerdy guys haven’t had much experience with girls (whether due to their self-conscious nature or general bad luck in high school), they tend to value you more in a relationship.
Your nerdy boyfriend will be overjoyed to have you around and will be less inclined to take you for granted, cheat on you, or otherwise mistreat you.
7. Making him happy is simple.
It’s easy to guess what a nerdy guy’s current obsession is. If he’s not wearing it on a T-shirt or a sweatshirt, he’ll have a room full of merchandise, posters, or other memorabilia.
When it comes to making him happy or trying to guess what he’d like as a gift, the nerdy guy is straightforward. Just get him something from his fandom that he’s been trying to get his hands on for ages.
8. They’re underappreciated.
It’s no secret that high school is no cakewalk for these nerdy gentlemen. They are typically bullied for their interests and appearance, so they’ve likely never had those “glory days” where they basked in the attention given to them by their female peers.
Because a nerdy guy is underappreciated, everything you do for him will be cherished even more. He will remember each sweet gesture you do, and try to return it tenfold.
Plus, because they’re such an untapped treasure, you can have them all to yourself without worrying about a third party.
9. He’s a romantic.
It’s natural for us girls to expect our boyfriends to go out of their way to be romantic. Regrettably, some of them are completely unaware of the importance of it.
But don’t give up hope! When you date a nerd, everything changes. They understand when we want flowers, cupcakes, or just someone to listen to us.
Because nerds are usually sensitive and have a lot of soft spots, they can be very romantic. This results in more snuggling and melt-worthy gestures – not to mention, fireworks in the bedroom.
10. They are exceptional gentlemen.
Bad boys might be hot, but here’s one thing they’re not: gentlemen!
Nerds will make you believe in love again.
They’ll help you by opening doors. When you’re cold, they’ll let you borrow their coat. If you’re still under some sort of curfew, they’ll bring you home on time – not to please your parents, but because he cares deeply about your safety, just as your parents do.
You won’t be exploited or have your heart broken, because nerds understand how to respect the limits you’ve established.
11. He’s compassionate.
A curious man who follows his heart is one worth dating, and because a nerdy man is different from the rest, he’s more understanding of other people’s personal needs. He understands people’s expectations and what they do in their spare time.
His curious nature will also make him explore your passions and show a genuine interest in them.
In the world of dating, the desire to learn about things you don’t understand is a highly undervalued and rarely discussed trait.
12. They aren’t judgmental.
Nerds have spent their entire lives being evaluated and critiqued for their individual decisions, from what they wear to the music they listen to – and even things as trivial as their haircut.
They know how it feels when people don’t give you a chance because they’ve been judged so harshly their entire lives.
So, if you’re dating a nerd, don’t expect him to judge you for your clothes or your lack of ability to ace a Math exam. He completely understands how you’re feeling, and he’ll be there to cheer you up.
13. There’s nothing fake about him.
Another wonderful thing about dating a nerdy guy is that he won’t give you any “classic fake nice guy” attitude – where he shows interest in you one day and threatens to leave you the next. He won’t start like a gentleman only to devolve into a maddening idiot.
He’s passionate and genuine. These guys are unconcerned about other people’s views, social media, or any other objective measures of success in a field in which they are not involved.
14. He’s got a great sense of humor.
For nerds, school was challenging – because many of them had to deal with nasty remarks or harassment on an everyday basis. As a result, many of them perfected their sense of humor. These guys, in addition to their superior intellect, are incredible at making witty jokes.
Their wit is unrivaled in terms of observational humor. Nerds have the unique ability to take a joke and run with it. Punchlines, inside jokes, and jokes shared only between you two will take the shape of their own.
15. He’s committed to the relationship.
He’s the type of person who knows exactly what he wants. He challenges everything by thinking about it ahead of time.
Nerds aren’t players and don’t enjoy drama – so you can live a life free of dirty tactics and needless doubt with a nerd. He won’t dismiss your calls or send double-meaning texts to irritate you, nor does he tell his friends about his annoying girlfriend to make you feel bad.
He will appreciate your support and care – unlike other boys who are used to girls falling all over them.
A nerdy boyfriend will appreciate the way you treat him, and he’ll know he’s in good hands.
16. He’s a homebody.
One of the best things about nerdy guys is that most of them are introverts and like to spend their free time at home. When you’re dating a nerd, you’ll spend your Friday nights cuddling up with your significant other and binge-watching a science fiction Netflix show or rewatching one of his favorite movies from the Marvel Cinematic Universe.
Who wouldn’t want a boyfriend who would rather spend time with you than go out with his buddies to a club?
17. Sports aren’t his strong suit.
Most women aren’t too keen on playing sports, especially those that make us get dirty, sweaty, or cuss like sailors. So, as we grow older, we retire to just watching sports on TV and calling it a day.
The good news is that because most nerdy guys are terrible at sports, he won’t have a scathingly negative opinion on this. In fact, chances are, he’ll join you on the couch when you’re watching a match.
Another great thing is that you won’t have to be the preppy cheerleader sitting on the bleachers for hours trying to support your sporty boyfriend.
18. He isn’t obsessed with superficial beauty.
We’re all probably afraid of gaining a few pounds and wouldn’t dare wear sweats when your boyfriend is staying the night at your place.
However, when you’re with a nerd, these things should be the last thing on your mind. Why? Because he isn’t with you solely for your physical appearance.
Whether you wear a piece of sexy lingerie or just some comic-book-inspired pajamas, he’ll find you equally irresistible.
Simply be yourself – and let him woo you!
19. He’ll likely have a good carreer.
The best thing about nerds is that they paid attention in school and probably went to a good college. As a result, they’ve probably landed a pretty plush job in a company most of us can only dream of getting into. Their abilities are in high demand – and they can pursue a variety of thriving careers.
This shouldn’t be your number one reason to date a nerdy guy, but you should definitely consider it.
Do Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, or Elon Musk ring a bell? They’re all nerds – and all multimillionaires!
20. Nerdiness has a charm of its own.
Unbelievably, dating a nerdy guy is trending – and for a good reason. Just because he’s a nerd doesn’t mean he’s bad to look at. Most nerds have an adorable romance about them. Their thick-framed glasses, their polos, and their furious fingers on the keyboard can be charming in their own unique manner.
Who wouldn’t want to date a male, Hermione Granger?
The Bottom Line
The typical nerd is a sensitive, impassioned, and caring individual. These gentlemen are intelligent and engaging to converse with. They are nonjudgmental, and you’re free to be yourself around them. Nerds have a dry wit and will never play politics or deceive you.
So, if a nerdy guy has asked you out, count yourself lucky! You are getting the best of both worlds.