How do you know if your boyfriend’s friend likes you? There are many signs that could be evidence of attraction, such as staring at you for a long time or being nervous in your presence.
If he keeps talking about you and always wants to hang out with you, there’s a good chance he has feelings for you. Read on to learn about all the clues!
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1. He always wants to hang out with you.
If your boyfriend’s friend is always trying to hang out with you and never leaves your side, then it’s safe to say that he’s infatuated with you. In fact, he might even be interested in hanging out with you more than your own boyfriend!
2. He touches his face when he talks to you.
If the guy in question does this gesture when talking about you or to you, it means he feels nervous and doesn’t know how to behave with you around. It’s important to see if he does this with other people too, though, as there’s a chance that he’s just a shy guy who’s bad at social interaction.
3. How’s his texting behavior?
If he reaches out to talk to you before anyone else, it could be evidence that your boyfriend’s friend likes you. Though things began innocently enough with a “hello,” and some memes, things may now be heating up.
If his messages get even slightly flirty, take note – because he has an ulterior motive. It’s best to stay cautious with how you message him back. The last thing you want is for your boyfriend to hear that his friend has a crush on you – and then get the wrong idea when he sees your text conversations with his friend.
There’s a very fine line between fun and flirting.
4. He compliments everything about you.
If your boyfriend’s friend is always telling you how great you look or praises your intelligence and personality, it could be a sign that this guy has developed some feelings for you.
At first, you may have thought he’s just a nice guy – but now you’re convinced that there’s something else going on. He just seems to be complimenting you way too often – and it’s starting to get suspicious, especially when he mentions your looks.
He wants you to notice him. He hopes that he can somehow get a few compliments back – but he needs to wake up and smell the coffee.
5. He gives you a hug when he leaves.
If your boyfriend’s friend hugs you before leaving and it doesn’t seem like an awkward gesture, then they might really care about you as a person. It’s important to see if he hugs all the people he cares about or just you.
While some guys hug all of the special people in their lives, there’s a chance that he likes you more than just a friend. Does he rush over to hug you first? Does he hug you but not his friends? This needs to be considered when looking for signs that your boyfriend’s friend likes you in a romantic way.
6. He tries to protect you.
Your boyfriend’s BFF is usually by your side when you’re out with the group. He’s there every second to look after you – no matter where you go. He’s doing this to be near to you and protect you from trouble (like drunken girls or pervy men). This is known as being a “white knight”.
He can’t help but want to protect the lady he likes, but it’s your boyfriend who should be looking out for you, not him. While it’s good to care for those in your circle, this friend needs to learn his place and not take things too far.
7. He gets overly shy.
Some guys get shy around people they like. If the guy in question avoids eye contact with you or gives short answers when he talks to you, it could mean that he has feelings for you. Also, if he’s not confident enough to talk in person, it could be because you intimidate him by just sitting next to him.
8. He likes every one of your social media posts.
This is one of the most obvious signs. He’s always checking up on your social media, liking every single post you make, and sliding into your DMs. The question isn’t whether he likes you or not – it’s how much! This may be a sign that there are more feelings than just “like.”
It’s also worth thinking about the type of posts he likes. Does he like posts where you look exceptionally attractive? Does he not like the posts that express the love you feel for your boyfriend?
9. He stares at your mouth.
If a guy can’t stop staring at your lips while talking to you, this is another sign of attraction. He may also give compliments about how nice your lip color looks or what lipstick shade would suit you best.
10. His friends mention him having a crush on somebody they don’t know.
He tells people that he really likes someone but won’t reveal who it is. So, why won’t he say?
Because it’s his friend’s girlfriend!!!
He’s aware that he can’t let the secret out of the bag; doing so will ruin his friendship forever. He may have even asked his friends for advice about this situation – all without them knowing exactly who he’s talking about!
11. He wants to know about what you’re doing.
The group always welcomes an extra woman, and you have a fun time together – but this guy goes one step further.
He’s always asking about you and wondering whether you’ll arrive at events. He may try to act cool by pretending like he’s just wondering what you’re up to, but really, he hopes your boyfriend will bring you along.
12. He shows off.
A bit like how your boyfriend tried to win you over at the start of your relationship, this guy wants to impress you. He has a knack for making himself out to be the alpha male in any situation. He’ll boast about how strong he is, try and kick your boyfriend’s butt at pool, or tell you how he won that game of flag football.
You’re simply not interested in your guy’s best friend, but that won’t stop him from trying to look his best so that you notice him.
13. He always wants to hang out with you.
If your boyfriend’s friend is always trying to hang out with you and never leaves your side, then he fancies you… big time. It’s fine if he enjoys your company at group events, but asking to see you on a 1-on-1 basis may be going a step too far.
Only you can know what’s acceptable or not in your relationship. Would you be happy for your boyfriend to go out to dinner with a female friend? Maybe you would, but it’s important to consider if this is stepping over any lines.
14. He looks at you for a long time.
All of us have felt someone looking at us for too long. It normally involves you catching them looking and the person suddenly turning their head and pretending nothing happened. Well, this is a clear sign that he’s infatuated with you!
Although he may be trying to stop his feelings, he just can’t stop staring at you and being amazed at just how beautiful you are.
15. He gets jealous of his friend.
He’s jealous of your guy and wishes he could trade places with him – but deep down he knows that will never happen because of how messy the situation would be.
However, if this guy isn’t a true friend to your Beau, then his jealously may extend to picking fights with your boyfriend over the tiniest of things. He may even tell you that your boyfriend doesn’t deserve you.
Whether it’s true or not, this is one man you should avoid! If he can do this to a friend, imagine what else he’s capable of!
16. He starts dating girls that look like you.
He wants you so badly that he’s willing to settle for a woman who looks just like you! You may not have noticed it at first, but now you do: there’s something about it that’s totally weird.
But hey, at least he isn’t pursuing you anymore and is able to date other women! Maybe he just has a very specific type?
17. He stays close to you.
When you both go out with a group of people, he always finds a way to stay next to you or touch your hand without it looking like anything is going on. Physical touch is a huge red flag that this guy is actively pursuing you!
It’s important to tell your boyfriend if you notice his friend behaving in this way – but don’t do it when you’re all drunk on a night out; that’ll only result in punches and tears.
18. He’s negative about your boyfriend.
When your boyfriend’s friend has exceptionally strong emotions, he may start acting in a pretty unbelievable way, but this is when things have gone too far! This guy is prepared to risk his friendship to get you all for himself.
He’s not respecting his friendship at all. He tells lies, manipulates you with jealousy tactics, and feeds your head with doubts. He doesn’t care about anyone but himself.
Don’t believe his words! He’s just letting raw feelings get the better of him. You should tell your boyfriend about what’s happened as soon as you can. Even better, try getting some proof of what the “friend” is saying about him.
The Bottom Line
It’s natural to want your boyfriend’s friends to like you – but not too much!
If your boyfriend’s friend is always trying to hang out with you and never leaves your side, then he probably has a crush on you. He might not even realize it himself!
If you do believe he has feelings for you, then you need to tread very carefully. Don’t just suddenly accuse him of something with very little evidence.
If he starts flirting, tell your boyfriend immediately, before confronting the friend. This should remove the chance of the friend twisting the story and putting the blame on you.
There’s also the chance that your boyfriend’s friend likes you as nothing more than a friend! This is likely the case if he’s comfortable around you but never goes too far or becomes attached to you. You’ll simply be another one of the guys that he can have fun with, make have some banter with, and call upon when advice or help is needed.
