Men are often known for their take-charge attitudes, which is a turn-on for many women. However, not all men have the typical take-charge attitude, and many are quite submissive, especially in the bedroom. Submissive men prefer that their partners take charge in a relationship.
Some men are only submissive in the bedroom – it sexually excites them. When not in the bedroom, they may share the responsibility of being in charge. Other submissive men may prefer being submissive both in and outside the bedroom, after all, every man is different.
For some people, being in a relationship with a submissive mate can be pretty exciting. You get to play all types of kinky sex games with your mate, which will likely improve your relationship as well as your sex life. In addition to having a great deal of fun, being in a dominant/submissive relationship can also help those involved fulfill some of their wildest fantasies.
A submissive male relies on his mate to take charge and tell him what to do and when to do it, whether it involves sex or simple, everyday tasks. This can be a great deal of responsibility, but for people who enjoy this type of arrangement, it can be very exciting for both parties. There are usually rules and limits involved regarding how far the girlfriend can take the demands and requests of her submissive boyfriend. However, some people prefer having no rules or limits because they feel it’s a bigger turn-on.
If you’re in a relationship with a submissive male, you likely want to ensure that he’s as satisfied as you are. This will lead you to seek new ways to please your submissive beau. But if you’re new to being in a relationship with a submissive boyfriend, you may not have a clue how as to how to ensure his satisfaction. Here is an overview of 15 ways to please your submissive boyfriend so you can both be happy.
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Submissive turn-on #1 – Demand humiliating positions
For some men, the more humiliating the better when it comes to foreplay. Positions that might humiliate him, such as being on all-fours like a dog, or squatting down like a frog while you fondle his genitals, can get him extremely excited. The sky is the limit when it comes to thinking of the most degrading positions to ask him to get into, and you can experiment with different ideas to see which ones turn him on the most.
Submissive turn-on #2 – Blindfold him while engaging in bondage
You don’t need to buy any special equipment to blindfold your hot sub and do a little bondage. A simple necktie or two can be used to bind his wrists, while an eye mask can be used as a blindfold. If you prefer, you can purchase the “real thing” from a kinky store or website, which could be a fun activity to participate in together. Your guy might get turned on in anticipation of the fun and sexy games.
Submissive turn-on #3 – Talk dirty and call him dirty names
Many submissive guys enjoy dirty talk during dominating sex, and they also get turned on when their partner calls them dirty, filthy names like “pervert” and more. In some cases, the dirtier and more shocking, the better, but of course, it will depend on your specific man.
Submissive turn-on #4 – Lick his butthole during oral sex
While this can be a super-turn-on for non-submissive men as well, submissive men might find it especially stimulating. Again, the dirtier, the better when it comes to submissive men, and there’s nothing that is dirtier or seemingly more taboo than licking a submissive man’s anus during oral sex.
Submissive turn-on #5 – Deny him an orgasm until you feel he deserves one
Your submissive guy will love having you tease him with orgasm. Taking him to the edge and then denying him when he gets close will drive him wild. You can do this several times before finally allowing him to orgasm, but only if he has been a good boy, and only if that’s what you want.
Submissive turn-on #6 – Force him to wear vibrating panties while out in the community
Whether your submissive boyfriend is going out to run errands or something else (maybe not work), you should demand that he wear a pair of vibrating panties while you control the remote. You can accompany him so you can see his reaction when you turn the panties on, or you could also stay home and press the button at random times.
Chances are your submissive sweetheart will absolutely love the stimulation while he’s out in public, putting him in the mood for some super-hot action once his errands are complete and he returns home to be dominated.
Submissive turn-on #7 – Have your boyfriend complete all the chores while completely naked
One way to really get your boyfriend’s engine roaring, as well as your own, is to give him a full list of chores that he must complete while in the buff. Alternately, you could have him wear only a thong, and every time he bends over while completing his assigned chores, you can fondle his goods and squeeze his buttocks. This will almost guarantee some hot action once he’s done completing his chores.
Submissive turn-on #8 – Tie him up and tease him relentlessly
While it may seem cruel, it’s actually a major turn-on for many submissive men. Once you’ve sufficiently restrained your hot, submissive honey, you can tease him by licking him all over, rubbing ice all over his body, using feathers to tantalize him, and more. He will likely go absolutely insane with need.
Submissive turn-on #9 – Ban him from masturbating
Men masturbate for a number of reasons and not just for sexual pleasure. Some masturbate for stress relief, to help them sleep, and more. However, if you ban your man from pleasuring himself without your permission, he will likely focus more on pleasuring you, which is the idea.
Submissive turn-on #10 – Choose a special “domination” outfit so he knows you’re in domination mode when wearing it
This can be very exciting for many submissive men, causing them to go wild with desire merely thinking about what’s going to happen in the bedroom. You could also develop a special tone of voice that alerts him of your desire to be in “domination” mode.
Submissive turn-on #11 – Tell him in detail how hot you think it is to dominate him
If you really want to please your submissive lover, tell him in explicit detail how much dominating him turns you on. Go into graphic detail explaining what turns you on and why. Chances are you’ll have him erect and ready to submit.
Submissive turn-on #12 – Incorporate spanking into your sex-play
Whenever your boyfriend is “naughty” and fails to comply with your requests, he needs to be properly “punished.” One surefire way to punish him is to spank his bare bottom. You may choose to use your hand, a paddle, or a whip. Erotic spankings can significantly enhance his sexual pleasure.
Submissive turn-on #13 – Try some roleplay
Roleplay can have a huge impact on your submissive sweetie’s pleasure, as well as your own. There are many different scenarios that you can act out, such as a doctor and patient, teacher and student, boss and employee, and much more. After perfecting one scenario, why not perfect some others? You two are certain to have a great deal of fun.
You can even make the scenarios more realistic by buying costumes specifically for sex-play. You could also incorporate some of your favorite TV shows or movies into the roleplaying scenarios. For instance, if the two of you are Star Trek fans, you could dress up as a Star Trek captain, while your honey is an Ensign who works under you.
Submissive turn-on #14 – Learn his specific interests beforehand
Having a dom/sub relationship with a man involves a great deal of trust. Your sweetheart has placed his trust in you to keep his best interest in mind during your dominating and submissive escapades. If you learn all his specific interests beforehand, it can dramatically increase his satisfaction.
If you prefer not to outright ask him what he likes and doesn’t like, then you can experiment and note his reaction to the different tactics. However, communicating with him outside of sex is best, because you will get clear answers instead of guessing. A dom/sub relationship is intended to be enjoyable for both parties involved, so as long as you remember that you shouldn’t have any problems.
Submissive turn-on #15 – Treat him to his favorite indulgences on a regular basis
If you know your submissive boyfriend’s favorite sexual indulgences, then you should treat him to them on a regular basis. For instance, if he likes being blindfolded while you ride him, or he likes taking you from behind, treat him to these indulgences on a regular basis. Having a dom/sub relationship is all about the enjoyment of both parties, so don’t focus on yourself and your own pleasure all the time.
Sure, the submissive man is expected to cater to the dominator’s desires and commands, but if he isn’t enjoying himself, then the relationship will eventually fail. You may also want to refrain from commanding your sub to engage in sexual activities just because you like them if you know he loathes him. Even though he agrees to comply with your requests, you want to be fair and think about his feelings and enjoyment as well.
For those who have never been in a relationship with a submissive boyfriend before, there might be some questions that these new dominatrix girlfriends have, to answers to which can increase their chances of having a successful and fulfilling dom/sub relationship. For this reason, here is a list of frequently asked questions and answers regarding being with a submissive boyfriend.
Frequently Asked Questions
I’ve always wanted to date a submissive guy, but how do I find one? All the guys I meet think I’m crazy if I even bring up the subject.
Unfortunately, it can be challenging to find a submissive guy, because they’re not just going to walk around with “I’m submissive” written on their foreheads.
If you feel comfortable doing so, you might want to sign up for one or more dating apps, because you might have more luck finding a submissive boyfriend by doing so.
Many submissive men on dating websites will disclose the fact that they’re submissive upfront, which will make it easier for dominant women to find them.
I get an absolute rush from dominating my boyfriend and having him do humiliating things, even when we’re outside the bedroom. Is something wrong with me?
Just because you enjoy dominating and humiliating your boyfriend doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you.
As long as the dominating and humiliating is mutually enjoyed, then you two sound like a match made in heaven. However, if your boyfriend voices his dislike of being dominated yet you continue to do it, then you two definitely have a problem.
Why do some men enjoy being dominated by their sexual partners?
There are many reasons why some men enjoy being dominated by their sexual partners. Some are business owners who must behave in a domineering fashion throughout the day, so perhaps this super-domineering businessman simply wants to unwind in the bedroom and succumb to someone else’s demands.
On the other hand, some men simply consider being dominated by their partners to be a major turn-on. Perhaps he has watched porn in the past that included some scenes depicting domination, or maybe a former partner introduced him to it, and he realized that he really enjoyed it.
Regardless of why some men enjoy being dominated by their mates, as long as both partners are into it, it can be a very enjoyable part of a couple’s relationship and sex life.
What if I am in a relationship with a submissive man yet I don’t like dominating him?
Successful relationships are based on honest, clear, and frequent communication. If you’re unhappy in a relationship for any reason, you should discuss this with your partner. Perhaps you can find a way to compromise so you’ll both be happy.
However, if your submissive boyfriend truly thrives off being dominated, then he may not be truly fulfilled in a relationship with you. You will simply have to let him know how you feel as soon as possible, and only then will you be able to find out the fate of your relationship.
How do I know if I’m being too rough or if I’m doing things that my submissive boyfriend may not feel are turn-ons?
If you question the techniques you’re using in the bedroom and you feel you might be doing things that your boyfriend doesn’t like or that may take things too far, you need to talk to him. It is probably good to bring up this topic during sex, however, because you’re supposed to be the dominator and he’s supposed to comply with whatever you request.
So, the next time you two aren’t having sex and you have some alone time, approach your man and explain to him that you want to set some bedroom boundaries so you’re both happy and satisfied.
Are there any benefits to dom/sub relationships, or is it just a weird fetish?
Believe it or not, there are many healthy benefits to being involved in a dom/sub relationship. First of all, these types of relationships improve communication, which is essential for successful relationships. A dom/sub relationship increases intimacy, reduces anxiety and stress, and even discourages cheating.