Marriage is a sacred union between two people that is usually intended to last a lifetime; however, many marriages fail.
Ongoing research is being conducted to first, determine the reason why so many marriages fail, and second, to determine how to prevent these marriages from failing.
In the 1800s, a renowned sociologist by the name of Karl Marx developed “conflict theory,” yet most people these days have no idea what conflict theory is.
Conflict theory in a marriage is the idea that, since it is thought that society is in a perpetual state of discord, it’s inevitable for conflict to brew on a regular basis within a marriage.
This has often been used as an explanation for couples that end up divorcing.
However, there have been various sociologists over the years who have voiced their own opinions about why divorce occurs, so there really is no definitive answer to this age-old question.
Every couple divorces for different reasons, and sometimes there simply is no explanation why they divorce, which is when the explanation ” irreconcilable differences” is used.
Here is an overview of some interesting facts about marriage and divorce over the years.
As long as no name-calling or swearing is involved, arguing can be healthy. Instead of keeping feelings bottled up inside, couples are able to freely express how they feel.
“Healthy” arguing can actually help bring couples closer together and improve trust.
However, frequent or malicious arguing is not healthy and can have the opposite effect.
It’s important to start nipping frequent conflict in the bud as early as possible because many couples wait until it’s too late and the only plausible option is divorce.
As long as it’s early enough, couples need to sit down together and get to the root cause of their conflict.
Once they’ve identified the root cause, the couple can work together to compromise, set goals, set rules, and more.
According to astrology, there are some zodiac signs that are destined for failure if they were to marry.
For instance, astrology states that the zodiac signs Capricorn and Cancer are destined for failure in any type of relationship, let alone a marriage.
However, despite what astrology predicts, many couples in marriages that are destined for failure due to their zodiac signs have managed to create and maintain loving, lasting lives together.
Proper communication is the main aspect of creating and maintaining any successful relationship.
If you and your spouse have been experiencing frequent conflict due to lack of communication, you could definitely benefit from sitting down and having a good heart-to-heart.
As long as the two of you are able to calmly discuss what has been causing trouble in your marriage, you should be able to successfully work through your problems instead of divorcing, as long as you both desire to remain married.
For some couples, taking a break from the constant mayhem in their marriage can work wonders.
Even if it’s only for a couple of days or a week, taking a break from each other can promote what is referred to as a “reboot,” as the couple will have quiet time to think about what went wrong and how it can be fixed.
Time apart also enables a couple to miss each other, so when they are reunited, all their feelings of animosity will be greatly diminished, and they can focus on working things out and reconnecting.
Prior to 1701, divorce wasn’t considered legal in the United States. Maryland was the first state to legalize marriage in 1701.
Some common reasons for divorce during those times could be due to a woman being unable to conceive, or even because a person’s status hadn’t improved as a result of getting married as they anticipated.
If a couple is experiencing severe marital problems, it’s questionable whether having a baby would help or hurt the marriage.
If the underlying issue is that the couple hadn’t been able to conceive a baby, then finally being successful with having a baby has a very good chance of saving the marriage.
However, depending on the circumstances, bringing a baby into a troubled marriage can only make things worse.
Once trust is lost, whether due to infidelity or because of some other reason, it is extremely difficult to regain – but not impossible.
As long as both spouses are dedicated to each other and have the desire to regain the lost trust, it can be done.
There is an old saying that a person can forgive but will never forget, which is often very true when it comes to real-life events.
In order for a marriage to be successful long-term, there are several important building blocks needed to secure a strong foundation.
Both spouses should have a strong sense of commitment as well as the ability to compromise.
The spouses must also have patience, the ability to forgive, and also the strong ability to communicate their feelings to each other, both negative and positive.
Not every couple is automatically compatible in the bedroom, as one spouse could have a much lower sex drive than the other, or either could enjoy engaging in kinky sex acts while the other spouse finds these acts revolting.
Regardless of the exact issue, sexual problems can lead to serious problems in a marriage, so it is accurate to state that some couples do, in fact, divorce due to incompatibility in the bedroom.
However, this is an example of how important compromise is in a marriage, because even if a married couple has sex drives or turn-ons that are completely opposite, if they are able to come to a compromise, then they could possibly work things out and avoid divorce.
A married couple can only benefit from marriage counseling if they’re both very committed to attending therapy in order to fix their marriage.
If only one spouse is motivated, then marriage counseling will unfortunately fail.
It is also imperative that both spouses agree to actively participate in the counseling sessions – it takes 100% effort and commitment on both spouses’ parts in order to be successful.
There are many reasons why two people may be legally married on paper but have opted to live separately and even date other people.
It usually involves finances in some way, because if a couple with children divorces, then there will likely be a huge child support order set in place.
There are also other financial reasons why a couple may agree to remain married but not live as a married couple.
Divorce often includes nasty custody battles as both parents fight for legal custody of their children.
However, once a child reaches a certain age, a custody battle isn’t always necessary, as the child is considered old enough to choose which parent they want to live with, as long as the parent is deemed fit.
The specific age differs depending on the state, but it averages around 14 years old.
There are many ways that a woman can show her husband that he matters. First of all, she can ensure that he comes first, before anything else, even work.
Another way she can show him that he matters is to tell him while presenting him with a small gift of appreciation.
Conflict is inevitable in any marriage, but it’s how the married couple decides to handle that conflict that ultimately matters.
As long as a couple is willing to work together to resolve a conflict, the marriage can become healthy and strong and handle just about any obstacle that comes its way.
However, if a couple refuses to communicate adequately or agree to work on problems together, then Karl Marx’s conflict theory may be true for them.