Speak to them in a friendly tone and say complimentary things.
Make it a point to approach him for a brief chat whenever the opportunity arises and he is not in a hurry.
However, don’t make a pest of yourself or make your chats too long. Want to know more great ideas? Keep reading this article.
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Sincerity is crucial
The whole key to flirting is in the sincerity of the act. If you are faking your interest in them, they will be able to tell from your facial expressions.
Your body language will also be a giveaway. Last but not least is your tone of voice. If there is even a hint of sarcasm, it will turn him off to you.
How do you keep the situation from becoming awkward?
If you are not sure how he feels about you, it is best not to approach him while he is in a crowd of his friends. It could wind up embarrassing for you.
Also, try to keep from stumbling over your words. Practice them in private if you have to but try to avoid sounding silly when you do get to talk to him.
How can you prepare for your “moment”?
The odds are good you know who his friends are. Let them know you are interested in him. Use flattering phrases and smile a lot but try to keep from blushing.
You can bet the word will get back to him. Then, when you see him, pay attention to his reaction to you. This will tell you if he is receptive to you or totally uninterested.
How to begin your first conversation with him
As we just said, observe how he reacts to you. This will let you know if and how to proceed. If he acts receptive, approach him in a friendly manner and begin a chat.
At this stage, avoid getting too personal. Also, some people have an aversion to being touched, especially when they don’t know the person. Refrain from doing this until you know his preferences.
Use facial editorializing in your chats
What is that? When people are speaking to each other, it is possible to read their faces and know approximately what they are thinking.
Make sure your face exudes happiness and warmth in your chats with him. Like we said previously, smile a lot and use a friendly tone of voice with him.
A great related idea!
What you should do before initiating any contact with your person of interest is learn how to read facial expressions and body language.
Knowing these things can spare you from a lot of humiliation going forward. There are plenty of free online sources you can utilize during this process.
If you are serious about flirting with someone, this is valuable information.
How do you know if you are coming on too strong?
You will be able to read his reaction to you on his face and in his body language.
This will tell you if you should continue the conversation or not. This information is also applicable to women.
Someone interested in flirting with a woman can benefit from these suggestions as well.
What should you do if he reacts to you negatively?
Politely bow out of the conversation. At this point, you do not know if he lacks interest in you or is only in a hurry.
If you think there is still a chance of winning his affections in the future, do not end this chat on a negative note.
Remain positive and let him know you would like to speak to him again sometime.
What about the reverse, if he reacts positively to you?
It is still a good idea to end the chat, but now you can do so on a much more positive level. Take his hand and smile.
Tell him you enjoyed talking to him and want to do it again soon. After that, walk away for now.
You do not want to push yourself on him by extending this conversation indefinitely. End on a good note.
How do you flirt with a woman without coming on too strong?
Flirting with women is a bit different than with men. If you say the wrong thing or let her think you are only acting out of lust, you will lose her.
She will think all you want to do is have a romantic encounter with her. This is not to say a man or another woman cannot flirt with a female.
They just need to use more restraint.
So, what CAN they do?
You should approach her with a smile and some flattering words. Avoid touching her at this early stage of your relationship.
You want to let her know you are interested in her. Perhaps tell her you would like to take her to lunch or dinner sometime.
Just as with a man, you will be able to read her reaction on her face and in her body language.
What to say if you want a relationship with her
Use a sincere tone of voice and facial expressions when you talk to her. Make sure to let her know you like her and not purely in a physical way.
Tell her she is attractive and that you’d like to get to know her better.
Things it is safe to do while flirting
The following is a list of things you can say to a man or a woman without appearing too eager.
- Pay them a sincere compliment
- Make sure your smile is genuine and not forced
- Say things that will lead to a short chat
- Make eye contact without it becoming a leering stare
- Express yourself in a positive way
- Avoid poking fun at them, it is possible to be humorous without being insulting
- Be a true lady or gentleman, avoid sounding slutty or too aggressive at all times
- Invite them out for a cup of coffee or a soda
- Let them know you would enjoy spending more time with them soon
When will I know if I shouldn’t flirt?
After your first couple of chats with your person of interest. At that point, you will know whether they are interested in you.
Then either you should stop talking to them completely or take your relationship to the next level.
At this point, the flirting stage should be halted. If you continue to flirt with this person, they might not take you seriously.
Two things to never do while flirting
First, never seem desperate. If you flirt too often or for too long of a period of time with the same person, they will take it the wrong way.
If they are not interested in you, stop the flirting and move on. Do not talk to them again.
The other thing is, once you have their attention, refrain from flirting with other members of their gender.
If you do that, they will infer you flirt with everyone and are not serious about them. Avoid letting this happen.
Is it okay to flirt at all?
Yes, it is part of the ritual by humans to attract a mate. In the animal kingdom, the male will put on elaborate displays to win a female.
Human beings flirt. There is nothing wrong with this as long as it is done respectfully. Take our advice and you will be fine.
