Is there someone you adore in school? Do you want to know how to make him or her fall in love with you?
There are ways to accomplish this without throwing yourself at them.
In the first place, make it a point to talk to him or her in a friendly manner. Read on to dig a little deeper and see some more advice.
Who is this article geared towards?
This article is mostly geared towards women. However, the object of your affection can either be a boy or a same-sex-oriented girl.
This article will answer all questions for either objective. Keep in mind, there is nothing wrong with either perspective.
First, assess their personality traits
What do we mean by this? Well, everyone has a different personality.
The personality of the person you have a crush on will determine how you should proceed with getting them to notice you.
Always be yourself
This is important because you do not want to portray a false image of yourself to your crush.
You want to be honest and sincere at all times. This person will appreciate that.
Never embarrass them in a crowd
After you get to know his or her personality, you will get an idea of what they consider embarrassing.
Then you will know what to say and do in order to attract them to you and not put them on the spot in such a way that might embarrass them.
Remember where you are
What are we talking about? Remember that you usually see this person when you are at school.
This means you will approach the situation differently than if you were an adult in a bar scene. This makes a difference in how you go about attracting them.
Try telling his friends that you like him
Find out who this person’s friends are, then let them know you like him and want to establish a relationship with him.
Get them to tell you where his locker is, then plan a more direct course of action.
Find out the type of snack they like
He or she will usually have a favorite snack. Get his friends to tell you what that is.
Then make it a point to share it with him. If you seldom run into him, get his friends to deliver it and include a nice note.
Compliment them often
One way to establish a relationship with this person is to routinely talk to them in a pleasant and sincere manner.
Let them know you think they are nice-looking and that you would like to get to know them better. Use a sincere tone of voice when you say these things.
Is it appropriate to flirt with your crush in school?
Sure, many people do this. There is usually some subtle flirting during school hours.
After school, the flirting may be more pronounced and obvious. When you are flirting, take notice of their facial reactions.
This will tell you if they are receptive to the flirting or put off by it.
Try to dress nicely
Even at a young age, a boy appreciates a girl who looks attractive. Remember not to equate looking attractive with looking slutty.
Dress appropriately for school, then try everything you can think of to get him to notice how nice you look.
Smile at them a lot
When you speak to this person, be certain you are smiling and are friendly and honest.
When there is not time enough to speak, smile at him while waving. It will help get the point across that you like him.
Use discretion in your first chat
If you get a chance to talk to him for the first time, avoid revealing your feelings right away. This will alleviate putting the person on the spot.
Keep your conversation casual, yet friendly. As we just said, smile when you talk to him. This will tell him you like him (or her) without you saying it.
Study his face when you have this chat to see what his reaction to you is. It IS appropriate to say you would like to speak to him again. Then, see if he is receptive.
Avoid playing hard to get
Times are different now. Years ago playing hard to get was a way of getting a guy to notice you. Back then, they enjoyed a good chase.
Fast-forward to 2022 and this has changed. Nowadays if you do that, he will likely avoid getting to know you. Instead, he will focus his energy on other gals.
Boys – rightly so – are now taught that when a girl says no or shows disinterest that it isn’t ok to continue to pressure or pursue her. So, rather than playing hard to get, be honest and sincere.
Approach him or her and talk directly to them
This is not being too forward as long as you do not declare your undying love for him right away. If you have the same lunch period, you can invite them to sit with you.
If you do not have any time to get together during school, try doing this afterward. Perhaps you will see them in the bus parking lot.
Little things mean a lot!
What do we mean by this? If he forgot his pen, lend one to him. If he has trouble with a subject you are good at, offer to help him with it.
If nobody sits with him at lunch, during breaks, or on the bus, you do it. These gestures will let him know you are interested.
Take good care of yourself
Ideally, your appearance should have nothing to do with making a boy fall in love with you. Realistically, it has a lot to do with it.
If you are smelly, wear sloppy clothes, fail to comb your hair, he will stay away from you.
If you go out of your way to look great and take care of yourself, he or she is more apt to notice you.
They will not be embarrassed when in your company. Then in the future, a relationship could be in the cards for you.
Avoid wearing too much make-up
A little make-up applied properly is fine. However, if you paint yourself up to look like a go-go girl, he or she will not be attracted to you.
On the other hand, if you choose not to wear make-up at all, that is fine too. It does not mean he will fail to fall in love with you.
Many boys or girls appreciate a natural look on a girl.
How do you know if a boy at school likes you?
Here are some clues. Pay attention to them. Remember, this is just a brief list, more possibilities exist.
- Does he pay special attention to you?
- Does he go out of his way to sit next to you?
- Does he use quite a bit of eye contact?
- Does he have a knack for making you laugh?
- Does he or she get nervous around you or has trouble communicating their thoughts?
- Do they want to team up with you on a school project?
- Does it seem like he can communicate well with you?
- Does he appear attracted to you? (You can tell by his or her body language and facial expressions.)
Final thoughts
There are discreet ways of letting a boy or girl know you are interested in them. As long as you go about this the right way, you will be successful.
Many long and happy marriages began as a crush in school. Perhaps even some of your family members met this way.
So, if there is someone you like, follow our advice, and see where it leads you.
