Men love the chase, and there are plenty of ways for us ladies to keep the game exciting, the chase entertaining, and continue to have something up our sleeves to keep the men on their toes and ready for a good chase.
Whether it’s your make-up, hair-do, manicure, pedicure, clothes, or shoes, you make an effort to look effortless – and, as a result, have your men drooling over you. All the physical efforts you have exerted are rewarded when you see your man in person, but what about the time you spend apart?
We have put together 11 ways you can keep your man chasing you, even when you’re physically apart and only have texting for ammo. These 11 tips will have him thinking of you, obsessing over you in a positive manner, and looking forward to seeing you again and again. Scroll down to find out more.
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1. Don’t text him.
The first rule of texting is you don’t text. It sounds unconvincingly counterintuitive, but have a little faith. Trust the evolutionary process that’s quite conclusive: a man ignored is a man ready for a chase.
You had a great time on your date, and he dropped you home. As you see him pulling out of your driveway, your fingers itch to text him and thank him for the amazing evening. Hold it right there! Don’t let your tingling get the best of you yet.
While your instinct might be to text him right away, his instincts will enjoy the silence. But, when he’s maybe ready for bed, and hasn’t heard from you – his instinct will then start nudging him to reach out – and soon enough, his name will be on your screen. Bingo!
If you’re patient enough and don’t give in to your instinct it will work! However, if you make the first “move” and started texting him immediately, he might have felt cornered and would have looked for an escape.
2. K.I.S.S. – Keep It Short, Sweetheart.
Us ladies love dramas and long-winded stories with an entertaining backstory. And sure, that 280 character limit on some apps may have us rolling our eyes. Men, on the other hand, are not like us. In fact, they’re just the opposite.
Just like they can’t keep up with the Kardashians, they won’t keep up with your long texts that just have to explain everything with crystal clarity. Save time typing a long descriptive text, and thing about why those apps included that character limit.
Remember the acronym: K.I.S.S. – Keep It Short, Sweetheart!
3. A picture is worth a thousand words.
Amazon has just delivered that amazing sequined dress that makes you look out of this world. Yay! You might be tempted to tell your special someone how beautiful the design is, how its color is super flattering, how it fits just perfectly, and how long you had waited for the re-stock.
Save those wordy texts for your girl friends, and send him a picture instead! If you want to keep him guessing, send him bits and pieces of your picture. The same goes with landscapes or other things that you want to share with him. Stop the descriptive texts! Say those thousand words with a picture.
4. Send incomplete texts, with cliffhangers.
Men love a bit of drama for sure, especially like Game of Thrones. If you’ve watched GOT together, you’ll probably remember how he’d wait for the upcoming season – the reason being: the last season ended with a cliffhanger.
Send him texts that will leave him wanting to know more, while you “torture” him with tiny tricky bits of information, and hook him with cliffhangers.
Even when you’ve been in a relationship for some time, these texts can spice things up between you and bring about a refreshing episode. A word of warning: try not to overdo the cliffhangers and build-ups; think GOT’s final season – and how devastated your man was.
5. Text him a riddle.
Keep him on his toes with some creative riddles to break the mundane madness and monotonous-sounding texts. His enthusiasm will peak as he racks his brains for the answer. The most important part: he’ll chase you, with the “Am I right” or “I want to know the answer, please” texts.
6. Send him on a treasure hunt.
Men don’t like it when it’s easy, and if you don’t mind playing hard to get, then the chase is ON! How about taking it to a whole new level? Explore your creative side.
If you want him to chase you, and all you have for your choice of weapon is texting, then you’ve got to be resourceful, mindful, have your creative juices flowing, and maybe create a treasure hunt.
The more meticulously planned your treasure hunt is, the more he is going to chase you. It might sound far-fetched, but if you have the time and energy, it’ll be the best investment. Your patience, and planning will be worth every penny.
7. Go bilingual.
For this, you ‘ll need to do a little background check. If he’s bilingual, surprise him by texting him in the non-English language that he knows/understands. If he’s not bilingual, maybe he’s taken a certain foreign language in school.
You don’t even have to know these languages, as there are numerous apps to do the translating for you. As long as you are good at copy-paste, you can bilingual the heck out of texting and be on his good side and have him yearning for more.
You can also try Tolkien minted Elvish – and you two can secretly start communicating in this language. Crazy romantic, isn’t it?
8. An incomplete list of things
You know a little about him, so use this knowledge to text him trivia or start interesting debates. Have him chase you around for the next top reason why DC is better than MCU, for example.
Lock horns with him and have him guessing where the next shot will come from. Not only will he be chasing you, but he’ll also be learning a lot from you as well.
9. Laughter really is the best medicine.
Once upon a time, the way to a man’s heart might have been through his stomach – but at this moment, it’s through his screen. You may be irresistibly beautiful, but that beauty can’t translate to texts automatically, and it gets hard if you’re stuck with texting.
You might want to send pictures after pictures, but even that can become a little too much. This is when you need to conjure your inner comedy queen – because a little laughter can go a long way.
Real laughter is a sure way to any man’s heart, and there’s no way they’ll be able to resist the comedic charm that you’re going to cast his way. The next time you send him a picture, add a funny caption to it. He’ll love the picture and enjoy the joke, and before you know it, he’ll be ready to give you the chase that you’ve been baiting him with.
10. Good when good, better when bad.
He knows your good side, but he might not know that you work hard, but can party harder. Show him your other side, ahem… your naughty side!
Send some naughty texts, with hints that he can’t help but run after you and chase you like crazy. However, keep in mind that you should only do this when you’re confident and comfortable – because if it’s forced, it’ll end badly for you and him as well.
On the other hand, if you want to explore your sensual side and bring out that femme fatale facet of yours – by all means, do it – and have him on his toes and down on his knees.
11. Text, rest, repeat
At this point, you’ve probably been sending and receiving texts regularly, and everything is going just fine – so fine, that it may start sounding “boring”.
Break the boring with a break – yes, take a break from texting nonstop. If you’ve been the one to send the “good morning” text every day for the past few weeks, take a break from that tomorrow. Sometimes routine texts can be dull, and its response, redundant.
Take a break, change things up, and he’ll be chasing you in no time – because he’ll really start missing your presence.
The Bottom Line
When life gives you a text for a lemon, concoct some cocktails with the tips above, take a sip and look back at the man chasing you. Want some even more tips? Here are 13 More Ways to Make a Man Chase You.