Friendships sometimes become close enough that your BFF may blow you air kisses or give you a peck on the cheek.
But occasionally, it could go even further than that.
Maybe your best friend has started giving you a quick peck on the lips, which has left you wondering whether this is normal behavior – especially if you’ve received rude comments about it from others.
If you’re drunk at a party and in the mood to experiment or want to get the guys excited, it may have even gone further than that.
But does this mean that you are bisexual or just having fun?
Understandably, kissing your BFF can lead to a mixture of emotions and can be even more confusing if your best friend is a guy.
Best friends develop a close bond with one another, so it’s perfectly normal to kiss your BFF regardless of what anyone says about it.
But kissing a male BFF is ill-advised as it could potentially harm your friendship.
That said, it’s not normal to have a full-blown make-out session with your best friend – unless it’s all in the name of fun.
Not everyone kisses their best friend, but it is common enough to be considered normal.
So, if you want to give your friend air kisses or even a peck on the lips or cheek to show you care, feel free to go ahead and do it.
You’re not weird, nor are you necessarily a lesbian – not like that’s a bad thing, though. You are just expressing your natural affection towards your BFF.
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Why it’s normal to kiss your best friend
Sure, you kiss your partner because you think they are hot stuff and you’re head over heels in love with them, but kissing your BFF isn’t the same thing.
While you probably love your best friend as though they were a sibling, you don’t love them in the same way you love your man.
But you certainly don’t only kiss the people in your life that you’re romantically involved with.
You also probably kiss your parents, grandparents, and maybe even your siblings. And if it’s perfectly normal to kiss your sister, then it’s normal to kiss your BFF.
Best friends kiss to express affection
When you greet a person that you have no emotional connection to, you’ll probably just shake their hand.
If they’re a friend of yours that you’re not super-tight with, you may give them a half hug or daps or even wave a peace sign as you part ways. You definitely don’t kiss them.
But you’re not “just cool” with your best friend. Most likely you’ve come to care about each other deeply.
Although it’s not a romantic relationship, you both love each other as though you were family.
And hugging and kissing are normal ways of expressing affection towards those you love.
Best friends kiss each other as a greeting
Best friends greet each other in several ways. Sometimes it may just be a huge smile and a wave as you both approach the table at the coffee shop.
Or it could be a hug, air kisses, or a peck on the cheek.
But it’s unlikely that you would ever greet your BFF with a handshake because you are so much closer than that.
Some people are more affectionate than others, so if your BFF prefers a half-hug instead of a kiss, you should respect their boundaries.
But it’s perfectly normal to greet your BFF with a kiss or to kiss them as you part ways.
Best friends kiss each other to provide support
You’ll probably shed many tears before reaching full womanhood, and your best friend will likely be a vital source of support.
You may go through painful break-ups with your partner, face a medical crisis, or lose a friend or family member and your BFF will be there for you every step of the way.
Whenever there are tears and piles of Kleenex, there will also be hugs and maybe even kisses.
And should you ever be hospitalized; your best friend will likely show up at your bedside with a bouquet that’s just as lavish as the one your partner brought you – and kiss you on the forehead in the same way your mom did when you were sick with the flu.
When you shouldn’t kiss your best friend
Although it’s completely normal to kiss your BFF, there are some situations where it may not be a good idea.
Of course, if you’re a confident young woman who’s comfortable with her body and couldn’t care less about snide remarks, you may still kiss your best friend whenever you feel like it – even if it’s for nothing more than the shock value. But you should proceed with caution.
Avoid kissing around conservative parents
While lesbian and bisexual girls should indeed be encouraged to “come out the closest” and embrace their sexual orientation when they feel ready to take that step, they are sometimes faced with rejection and criticism the first time they openly kiss another girl in public.
Although it’s only right for people to accept them for who they are, unfortunately, this isn’t always the case.
And if you are just kissing your best friend because you care, there’s no reason that you should need to risk unnecessary judgment.
On the other hand, in some cultures, it’s acceptable to kiss both friends and family.
Actually, a kiss on each cheek may be the standard greeting. Just be mindful of religious and cultural perspectives.
Avoid kissing around bullies
Let’s keep this one short, as ignorant and cruel people will always have some type of snide remark or even look for ways to humiliate other people for their own sick pleasure.
While you can probably identify the bullies at work or school, you can’t possibly know what every Joe Smo in public is thinking. And why should you really care?
But in the 21st century, cyberbullying is becoming all too common, and the last thing that you’d want is for a picture to be posted online and taken the wrong way.
Then again, there’s really no reason to be embarrassed about kissing your BFF – as long as your partner knows and is totally cool with it.
Avoid kissing male best friends
Many modern girls have successfully become “one of the guys.” And why not?
Women can do almost anything a man can do, so your BFF may very well be a guy – especially if you enjoy activities that guys traditionally partake in.
But if your best friend is a straight guy, kissing him could send mixed signals and potentially destroy the friendship.
Although you are certainly free to kiss whomever you want to, you do need to be mindful of your BFF’s sexual orientation and your own as well.
If one or both of you are lesbian or bisexual, kissing could send the message that you may want to go further.
And this is perfectly fine- as long as you both discuss it and are on the same page.
Kissing your best friend is a normal way of expressing your affection towards them in the same way that you might do with a sister.
Sure, some people may not understand and take it the wrong way, but as long as you are comfortable with kissing your BFF, why should you really care about what they think?